i sometimes get this feeling.

that maybe my life should have been controled by others... maybe i should have been told what to do from the start, since i can never find a path that works for me

has anyone else ever had these feelings- and if so how'd you cope with them?

After what I grew up in ... ?!?!?

Aw Hell Naw!

I'd rather figure it out on my own.

Whether I ever find what it is I'm looking for or not!

[Webgoji]

Actually, I wish I had a little bit of control of my own life for once.

wow. that's sad

i'm the only person so lost in life that i wish other people would tell me what to do

i'm to that point

[mulan]

No you're not the only one. Sometimes I just need too because I can't figger out what to do. I'm a little demanding in those kind of situations. Well but I already feel that my life is controled by others...Sometimes I just want them to do whatever I have to.

[marmaduke]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

wow. that's sad

i'm the only person so lost in life that i wish other people would tell me what to do

i'm to that point

There was a time when I was young I felt like that. I went into hospital for a couple of weeks. I was well looked after (better than at home were I was ignored) nurses were kind, people were friendly. The same routine every day was comforting.
I was away from the outside world with all its pressures. Crappy parents, bullied at school, decisions all made for me. I liked that. I felt cared for, secure, safe, listened to and not lonely.
I didn't want to go home.

[A Red Panda]

I definitely don't wish my life was controlled by others - but that's because it already was. I wish that my life HADN'T been controlled by others!

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

I definitely don't wish my life was controlled by others.....

MORE relate-able (to myself)

Originally Posted by mulan

No you're not the only one. Sometimes I just need too because I can't figger out what to do. I'm a little demanding in those kind of situations. Well but I already feel that my life is controled by others...Sometimes I just want them to do whatever I have to.

1 of my problems (as well as all my mental issues), is that everyone has always told me what they expect. you know, like, you can't be yourself, you can't have a life... all that stuff.

so i think of the song never been to me (the song by charleen?)

never really had a say in what happens, when it happens, and how it happens- and so now even i can't decide what i'd like for myself

make sense?

i've had choices taken away from me all my life, and so now even i struggle to find my own purpose.. what i'm actually interested in

[gayleggg]

My first marriage of 24 years was all about me being controlled by my husband. I said the day the divorce was final that no one would ever control me again. Funny thing is now I'm controlled by money, that is lack of. It's funny how many decsions that can make for you.

[mulan]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

1 of my problems (as well as all my mental issues), is that everyone has always told me what they expect. you know, like, you can't be yourself, you can't have a life... all that stuff.

so i think of the song never been to me (the song by charleen?)

never really had a say in what happens, when it happens, and how it happens- and so now even i can't decide what i'd like for myself

make sense?

i've had choices taken away from me all my life, and so now even i struggle to find my own purpose.. what i'm actually interested in

I can't make little choices like what to eat in a restaraunt/cofee. I can't buy anything I want. I don't have a minimal clue about what I like. I let the others influence me on almost everything. Maybe I should be just by my self, but I guess I get lost when it happens. I can't chose my clothes either. And when I chose and buy some clothes and my sister don't like them I feel bad about myself. I try to allways agree with everyone which is hard, but that makes me a non-opinion person. The thing that I hated most to be controled was my outfit, because my mother usualy as poor taste (???) for clothes, and I had to dress those horrible sweathers she made me and that I hated. Maybe until 12 years old.

[toscana]

I was controlled out of fear when I was a kid. I became a controller when I grew up and got married. That destroyed my marriage. Then I decided that nobody would control me anymore. Now I just back off when people try.

Even with my feelings I can completely understand where you are coming from. I'm sure that what you are going through is difficult. I wish I had great words of wisdom for you but I don't. All I have is a listening ear and a heart that cares.

When I was a young adult, I lived with my parents and a sister who is 11 years older than me. My father was very controlling and my sister tended to be controlling also. I hated it. So I had to take off from them. That was many years ago and when I left, I never missed them.

My parents passed away many years ago. Of course, my sister is still alive. I'm single and my sister has suggested that I should move back to where I came from and move in with her. Along with her husband and two kids. No way will I want to do that! I think that my sister would be more controlling than my Dad was. My Mom was never controlling.

Originally, I thought it would be so much easier for people to make decisions for me and I'd just do it or rather something to that extent. Kind of like a maid? I dunno. But then I realized I'm really picky and so I'd probably get upset at how I was treated and want more freedom and etc. Haha so I figure it's probably better for me to be on my own.

[whim]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

i sometimes get this feeling.

that maybe my life should have been controled by others... maybe i should have been told what to do from the start, since i can never find a path that works for me

has anyone else ever had these feelings- and if so how'd you cope with them?

I know how u feel. I am a massive people pleaser (which annoys me about myself) but sometimes i get so worried about what people want out of me that i just want everyone to tell me what to do and then maybe I would get something right for a change!

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

i sometimes get this feeling.

that maybe my life should have been controled by others... maybe i should have been told what to do from the start, since i can never find a path that works for me

has anyone else ever had these feelings- and if so how'd you cope with them?

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[StarStrike]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

I definitely don't wish my life was controlled by others - but that's because it already was. I wish that my life HADN'T been controlled by others!

Same... My life has been controlled by my dad. And all it got me was being kicked out when he finally got some action in the bed room when I became old enough to be legally classed as an adult.

[A Red Panda]

Yeah... like... I still struggle to try and do what *I* want to do, because I've spent so much time just doing what was expected of me.... that I'm very much a people pleaser.

But I keep trying not to be, and when I'm by myself I make the decisions that I want to for my own life. It's just that when I'm with other people, I still tend to just cater to them and never really express my differences of opinion.