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May 09, 2013, 09:11 PM
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My brother in law came by for a visit, which usually doesn't bother me. But today, I guess it was time for him to tell me what for!
According to him, I suffer from depression because: 1. I don't spend several hours a day reading my Bible. 2. I don't "talk about the Bible enough" 3. I'm not quoting scripture enough. 4. I'm not going around trying to force Bible studies on younger women. 5. ....and I'm not over at their house all the time wanting them to "teach me about the Bible." They were my legal guardians for my last 2 years of high school, and yes, I did love reading the Bible because I found it fascinating. I even memorized a lot of scriptures. But that is all he remembers; he doesn't remember that they always thought I was living in secret sin because I was suffering from depression at that time too. 
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#2
May 09, 2013, 09:59 PM
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Oh, Short and Cute, how sad that you would be exposed to that. Christianity isn't
like that at all in healthy people. Please don't pay any attention to that kind of behavior. It's ignorance par excellence, in my view. And don't let it discourage you from your love for Christianity. It's a life saver for many of us, and it isn't what your brother-in-law proposes. Please believe that. Keep in touch with your psychiatrist and follow his/her instructions about your health. You will get a clear view of yourself and your family members through healing with psychiatry and medications. Take care. |
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#3
May 09, 2013, 11:03 PM
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Short and Cute - I hope you didn't really mean it when you titled "I guess I really AM and awful Christian!!!" Because you are not an awful Christian.
You are worthy a lot as a person and a Christian. Anyone who would tell you that you are an awful Christian is being very judgmental and more likely that they are the awful ones. I've heard the whole bit of having depression because of not being right with God or not getting into Him enough. That's just hooey! Go on and just be yourself! I think you are doing great! |
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#4
May 09, 2013, 11:10 PM
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Many Christians and other believers in God suffer from depression. There are so many candid, profound, helpful and deeply inspiring books written by Christians on the subject of depression. I'd be happy to send you some titles if you like.
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#5
May 10, 2013, 07:13 AM
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Hmmm...? I wonder if somehow they need you to feel bad about yourself in order to support their own view of themselves? Just speculating... 
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#6
May 10, 2013, 11:04 AM
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 Ever since I can remember, they've always hated it when people didn't follow their belief system--even b4 they were Christians.
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May 10, 2013, 01:44 PM
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#8
May 10, 2013, 02:35 PM
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To me, being a Christian has more to do with how we treat one another. How many hours you study the Bible, hmmmm...falls in line with actions speak louder than words and condemning you, my words--by virtue of what he said to you--, isn't Christian like, in my view.
I subscribe to the Golden Rule, and that's enough for me, to live by, ontop of whatever else a good Christian does. ((being charitable, giving isn't all about dollar donations, being kind to others, etc...)) You mention, before they were Christian?? What changed their worldview, if you don't mind my asking? Quote:
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#9
May 10, 2013, 02:55 PM
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Healingme4me is right. Reading and quoting scripture has nothing to do with how good a Christian you are.
Anybody can read the Bible and quote a verse. That doesn't mean they are good Christians. Being a good Christian is about your actions. In fact, take the "Christian" part out of it and just be a good person. Treat others nicely. Do good things. Be kind and polite and don't judge others. That is far more important than reading and re-reading the Bible over and over again. |
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May 10, 2013, 04:08 PM
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#11
May 10, 2013, 04:18 PM
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sorry to hear about this; many well meaning people of faith for some reason seem to have a hard time understanding that depression is an illness just like a physical illness. Try to overlook it somehow; I do know that my faith in Christ has kept me sane over many yrs struggling with OCD..........I try to read Scripture daily and it really helps me |
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May 11, 2013, 01:52 AM
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I've found that those who go around shouting and making big noise about their own religion are generally insecure.
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May 11, 2013, 05:22 PM
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What's really funny about this, is that my sister and brother-in-law are two of the most miserable people I know! They're both always angry, crabby, jealous of others, whining about how bad they think everyone is treating them---and my sister is always falling apart and having melt downs. They're never happy! And, yet, my BIL is going to preach to me about how to be "happy, joyous, and free"!
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May 11, 2013, 06:07 PM
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You aren't an awful Christian. I'm not a Christian, but... Not devoutly worshiping God has nothing to do with being depressed.
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May 23, 2013, 10:31 AM
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May 23, 2013, 10:33 AM
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May 23, 2013, 11:52 PM
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They think you're depressed because you are not devout enough?!?!? Do they think the same thing if you catch a cold or sprain you ankle?
 your brain is a part of your body. Depression is a physical problem. |
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