[pamelasu]

Ok lately things have been going well and I've been doing really well. Then last night my older sister had called me telling me all of her problems and stuff. I really felt like I was validating her feelings really well, but the thing is a few minutes later my mom called talking about the same things only her side of the story. I feel as if they are trying to put me in the middle of their problems. Both my mom and sister expect me to fix their problems for them even though the only ones who can fix them is themselves. I feel responsible to make them see that they need to let go of their hurt and their pain for eachother and learn to grow and love eachother so that they will become best friends instead of enemies. I don't know how it will work though because they just clash together. They both fight all the time and I just want it all to stop. It's making me frustrated enough that I can't concentrate on my studies. I just wish that they would both stop calling me so much.

[unwanted]

I can understand what you are going through. My grandmother does it to me all of the time. I have gotten to the point in not answering the phone when she calls. I call her back in a few days and it seems to help. The emotions are not running so high at that point. She has calmed down and I can talk to her. I make it my policy that there has to be 24 hours after the fight or what ever before I will talk about it with her. Just a word of advise. It may not work for you but what will it hurt to try. Keep your head up. Things will work out.

[pamelasu]

Well, when I had my cell phone I didn't answer it at all when my sister called or when my mom called because of that same reason, but now my cell phone is turned off and I'm living in the dorms where I have a regular phone. I answer it because it could be my little sister wanting in to see me or it could be an emergency that I will have to attend to. Something always comes up, so I want to make sure I am right there to get it. I just feel so frustrated over everything.

[FaithisAlive]

There comes a point in time when we just have to set some boundaries... and maybe you need to tell them both you want nothing more than for them to get along and love each other.. but that you have done more than your part. they have to do theirs.. and tell them not to call you to complain.. call you because they are ready for a solution...

Let them know how you are feeling.. they will respect you more for it. because all they are doing now is treading water and you are doing all the swimming for them...holding them up... you need to be able to do what you need to do for yourself... like studies...

Good Luck!