[Imamess2012]

My issue is more situational depression, but I'm worried it may turn into something more. My boyfriend cheated on me with an ex for a second time (I know. I should have never taken him back to begin with). After the breakup I cried constantly for two weeks straight, lost 13 pounds -I weighed 115 so it was 13 pounds I really didn't have to lose- and didn't feel like doing anything. Well I get that's somewhat normal after a break up.

But now, two months later, I'm back where I began. Almost as if I've regressed but worse. I'm finding it having to do more with myself than the brEakup. Before my boyfriend I never had high elf esteem. Never thought a boy would like me, if one did I would push him away knowing it would never work, bla bla bla. So when I finally found a guy who broke through that barrier, it was almost as if he validated who I was. Bad idea. Because now I find Im not happy with who I am and where I am in life, but I don't want to have to rely on someone else for my own happiness. I find when I do cry, it's mainly more because of my self esteem than because of my ex.

I know the pain of the breakup will pass, but was wondering if I should seek help with my self esteem or coping. I dread the waiting game with this feeling to pass and fear it will only get worse after this recent relapse.

[Pierro]

Hello Iamamess, I think you answered your own question. Yes, I think that youe should talk to somebody about your self esteem issues. You gave your boyfriend another chance but it didnt turn out good. I think we can all relate to that. Your boyfiend was part of the problem but you are the solution. You deserve more than him. You are woorth much more than that. If you dont value yourself how do you expect others to treat you right. You sound like a really lovely person and I hope that you take your own advice and talk to somebody. Best Wishes.

[justmemaybe]

I agree with everything Pierro said

[gayleggg]

I agree with Pierro, too. You have to take care of you.
Gayle