[Delljoy]

I've just had a brief email from my depressed boyfriend, who I hadn't heard from since Saturday.
His email was brief and cold, saying he hadn't made any decisions what to do in the future yet, and that he was trying to get the money for the bike back quickly so he could pay me my half.
I gather he is still holed up in a motel room. His cell phone is still turned off, so he is not ready to face the world yet.
On the positive, at least he is alive and hasn't done anything stupid. Hopefully I've re-opened the lines of communication.
I emailed back saying it was great to hear from him, I'm glad he's ok, that I'm here for him, that I won't give up. I also asked him out on a 'date' Thursday evening.....no reply as yet.

[gayleggg]

Glad you finally heard from him. I'm sure you feel much better knowing he is okay.
Gayle

[Fuzzybear]

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[bharani1008]

Even though he may not show it, knowing that someone cares and is thinking about him can be a big help. You may be able to encourage him to see someone for help. If he's been depressed for a while, he may need some help to get better. There is only so much you can do. Don't feel badly if he does not respond. It isn't your fault. I think you are doing all you can.
I hope he opens up to you and gets help.

[Delljoy]

Thank you for that. He is a very proud man. He has been in therapy and on medication before but feels they won't help. He says he is depressed because he has run out of money, that he is a 57 year old man and is unlikely to get another job. He says medication is unlikely to be able to get the farm back that he lost, find him an executive position or get all the money back he lost and I tend to agree.
I've been telling him I love him no matter what he does, it's what in his heart that matters, not how much money he's got in the bank or what he does for a living. I told him I'd be happy if he just drove a cab or mowed lawned, but he has to come to that realisation himself. And that is where his problem lies, accepting his changed status in life. He is angry at himself for some poor decisions and judgements he has made that have left him in this situation.
He is of old school and feels he should have something to offer me, should be able to support me etc....