helping but not helping

So, my wife knows about my depression and has been a great support in many ways... but today while trying to help she basically kindled some very dark thoughts. I know she didn't mean any malice in it and was genuinely trying to be reassuring, but it was just the wrong thing to say to someone when they had been using something as an anchor.

Hard to word this without being direct... I'm not sure how to express it. She basically told me that no matter what, she would be ok (and threw in some religious mumbo jumbo - I'm an atheist whereas she's a devout roman catholic)... now don't get me wrong, I am very grateful to know this... but it knocked a massive barrier down and I'm using all of the CBT that I've picked up that I can right now.

These are the times where I really regret talking and confiding in others... people being hurtful doesn't necessarily bother me... but I kick myself when I know that the help given is well meant but from a lay person that's essentially removing a fly from your face with a hatchet.

To say the least it's given me food for thought... not sure how good a thing that is.

Best thing for me right now is to get some sleep and hopefully I'll be able to look at it in perspective tomorrow.

Put myself on the books for a new T that hopefully I'll see within the month.

Not sure if any of you have faced these kind of challenges as it were?

Wish I could be more helpful, but all I can do is agree that sleep is the best thing for you right now. Hope you feel better tomorrow.

Glad you are using the CBT you are learning. I think that may be your best hope in getting back to normal. Also, I agree that sleep should help as well. It is hard when well meaning folks say the wrong thing unknowingly. I'm sure with some help from your therapist you can work this out.

Oh boy! It happened to me, totally. My BF said some things that brought back very dark memories. I did'nt say anything because he would be completely clueless, he does'nt understand my illness very well. I just try to forget about it.

Not exactly, but I do remember a well-meaning colleague suggesting I may have early onset Alzheimer's...
Excellent! In my experience all T's are different. Learning what - and who - works for you and learning what does not are both valuable.

I wish you well with this new therapist.

Thanks for the replies

Feeling a bit more upbeat today and have been able to keep on an even keel. Even had some breakfast

Going to try and put what happened in a box for now and leave it alone till I speak to the T.