Reactive depression?

Hey,

Kinda nervous at the moment.

I've been talking to a friend, well, I'd describe her as a soul mate from another life. And when I've told her about what's going on with me, she's told me I might have reactive depression. I trust her, she has bipolar, so in my head she knows what she's talking about.

Well, she's told me to get help, and to get myself sorted but I'm actually so worried.

I'm a very reserved guy, who represses feelings very well. Life hit me hard last month and I self destructed nearly, it was only because of my best mate that I'm still here.

I feel so terrible about me! I have a pure soul but I'm always let down, after giving all in relationships. I don't know why.

I have no idea what will happen when I get help, it's making me so worried. I know it's something I have to do for me but I'm avoiding it, I just don't want them judging me because I already feel like a complete failure.

Please give me something? Advise or support?

I've never felt so on my own..

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hey, the first thing is you need to calm down which sometimes requires medications. but before that try to see if you can calm down on your own. find something relaxing to do. take a break and go on a holiday. if still you are nervous after all these then go and see a therapist who may help you to relax using techniques like speech therapy and /or CBT. if that also doesn't work then its going to be pills. but one step at a time.

i can understand how you feel when you say you have a good heart and bad things happening to a good person. unfortunately the reality is the goodness in us makes us so soft that we get messed up when things go horribly wrong.

Getting help does not mean that you're weak. In fact actually, you're stronger than the mass population. You can admit that something is wrong and that you want to fix it. Therapy doesn't only take place when you have a mental illness per se, therapy can take place when you feel like there's something you feel you should work on.

On another hand, while your friend has the diagnosis of being bipolar and would probably have more knowledge than you, I believe that diagnoses should be left to the hands of a professional.

The world will judge no matter what. It all depends on what you do with it though.

With all said, welcome to PC!!

Hope you can find the decision that best fits you.

Remember the mind is like a parachute and works best when open. I do not view getting help when you need it as a weekness, but rather a streangth. It is real chikens**ts who practice denial to tournament standards.

With reactive depression CBT is going to be your best treatment. Do not turn to medication, when you are depressed because of life events that is best treated with therapy - not meds. Meds can cause you a whole lot more problems than solutions in this kind of depression. Most GPs will give you meds straight up now. Really bad idea. Find a therapist and work from there, it will give you the most benefit in the long run. Remember you are not alone, many people suffer from depression and there is a lot of support here.