[Whoaminoone]

As some know, my husband and I were seperated for about 2 years up until about 3 months ago (note how this coincides with the exact amount of time I've been out of work...). I had hesitation about coming back, but was feeling overwhelmed as a single parent, and also still held this fantasy of having an 'ideal' family. Well, I come home last night from collecting kids from daycare and husband is disgusting, scary, drunk. A HUGE part of the original reason I left. This is the first reoccurrence of this since I have been back. I can't say he wasn't verbally abusive towards me, but he wasn't physically abusive at this time. From past experience though, I can now see that he hasn't changed and things will get physical again at some point. I regret coming back here. Now I feel stuck... This is most certainly not helping my depressive state.
I just needed to 'vent' for a moment. Thank you to all of you that take the time to show understanding and support without judgement. It is appreciated.

[Little Lulu]

So sorry to hear history is repeating itself in your life but until anyone with an addiction commits to getting help the problem remains, even though there may be gaps of abstinence that seem hopeful. I hope you have heard of Al-Anon, a support group for family and friends of those whose lives have been affected by alcoholism. It is in nearly every city and of course they have a website. Dealing with an alcoholic alone is 'too much for most of us' as their opening statement says.

Al-Anon and CoDependents Anonymous helped me tremendously with my life issues as well as my mood problems. Hugs - you need support.

[ayana95]

Hi
Living with someone with alcoholism and addiction is not easy. It does tend to make depressive symptoms harder to deal with. I was thinking of trying Al Anon. I feel your pain. Try taking care of yourself the best you can.

[winter4me]

Remember, you have gone before, and you are not stuck---physically that is...take time to think, to plan, do what is good for you and your kids. Take care. I know how hard it is to let go of the fantasy, and maybe we never really do...but it is just that, a fantasy...ok to indulge if not acted upon. ((((hug)))))

[jjettxtc]

I just got out of a situation with someone who drank too much...she would drink everynight and then decided to do a new year new me thing and now only drinks on the weekends but the way I see it alcoholism is alcoholism,,,left untreated it can only get worse and sometimes people that are alcoholics cant help themselves..and in my case im lucky she dumped me because I was going in the same direction right along with her...Do you think your husband would get physical if you talked to him and asked him to seek help? I will say that my ex would blow it off and not want to talk about it...