[nightdream]

I have a hard time asking for help of any kind. I was told and told over again to hide my feelings and don't go around asking for help. So I rarely do ask unless that I know my life is in danger and that I can't go further without help.

Well this lady she did help me without me asking for it. I did appreciated it and I still do appreciated it. But my problem is now, she says lies about me. Saying that I have begged her over and over again for her help, that she has passed many hours and many nights with me, finding things for me to help me out and that she is so tired, that I have completelly drained her. That if, she has known that I would asked her all the time for help, she wouldn't have give it to me.

Well that lady what she did for me was sent me 3 cards and 2 email messages saying she was hoping I was ok and that she was thinking about me. I do appreciate her caring for me by sending me 3 cards and 2 messages which I didn't even asked for. So it was nice of her. What I can't deal with is her lies. And how do I know she has lied about it? Because I read her email she has sent to someone else about it and that person sent it to me to protect me. So I think she is a better friend!

As I said I already have a hard time asking for help and I always feel bad when I do so why is she saying she have giving so much more then she did to the point I have drained her. I don't mind she says to people she has help me but why lie about it. And I have the feeling she regrets what she has giving me. I never regret what I give and I don't expect anything in return.

I'm sorry I know I keep talking about it and this post is long. I have also trust issues and poeple who say lies, I have a real hard time taking that and dealing with it. I know that this is going to affect me in a way I will now have even a harder time asking for help. I will probably stay in that hole and eat pizza and chocolat.

Thank you for reading this. Sorry it is so long.
nightdream

[Fuzzybear]

I have a very hard time with people who lie, and I fully empathise with you. I was also "taught" to hide my feelings and not to ask for help.

This lady obviously has issues. She doesn't sound like a friend and you deserve much better. I hope you don't stay in that hole too long...

Take care dear one,
Fuzzy

[SeptemberMorn]

NightDream, this person is obviously lying to make herself look good because deep down, she thinks she's worthless. Maybe she is! I sure wouldn't want her to call herself my friend! I'm sure that other people see her for what she is. I wouldn't waste my time worrying about what she says and what others think of you. The person that sent you her emails sure knows that what she said isn't true.

It's always been hard for me to ask for help. It really makes me uncomfortable. Somehow, in my childhood, I learned that I wasn't worth the trouble. Always kept everything to myself. In the last few years, I've had to change. It sure was a difficult thing to do. I've only gotten burned once or twice and it felt like I was a snail that someone had dropped a grain of salt on my head. I shrunk back into my shell and put up a thick wall of protection... but I couldn't stay there. Thankfully, there are only a few people like that around. Truly, for the most part, people are good.

Please don't stay in the hole for long, ok? I'll miss you.

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[nightdream]

Thank you Fuzzy and SeptemberMorn! It's nice of you both to have read this long post and replying to me.

I am going to put a lot of distance between me and her, I already did. But I also know that I have put my walls even higher. It has triggered something in me that I can't forget and that I can't cope with.

Thank you!
nightdream

[PlanningtoLive]

It will take time nightdream. To go thru the process of opening up and then getting hurt all over again is h*ll.

Just try not to let the walls get thicker and higher like I do. It makes them twice as hard to come down again and you may miss out on some wonderful life experiences.

Take care of yourself.

Mary Alice

[nightdream]

Thank you sweety! I am so sad right now I can't even think what to reply to you. But I appreciate your reply. You are very nice!

(((((((((((((((((((Mary Alice))))))))))))))))))))

nightdream

[PlanningtoLive]

Thanks........I'm sorry you're sad. Your poetry brings such beauty into other's lives.

I may be quiet most of the time, but I hope you feel better soon.

Mary Alice

[bptoo]

nightdream,

As Tomi said, this person is probably trying to make herself look good at your expense. The important thing is that you know what the truth is. If this person lies, it will catch up with her eventually. There's an old saying that you've probably heard, One bad apple doesn't spoil the whole bunch. Don't let the actions of this one lady ruin your ability to trust everyone. There are some truly good people out there that are worth getting to know, and will help you if you ask. Some will offer to help you even if you don't ask. But it's important that you remember that not everyone is like this lady.

There's not many things more special than having people in your life that you can trust and care about. And you are worth having all the best things in life. And you can take that to the bank because I said so!

Humungous Hugs,
Greg

[nightdream]

(((((((((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))))))))))))))))

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Thank you so very much for your replies. I really appreciate it. I will surely keep them in consideration and come to read them about a 100 times. Well maybe I'm exagerating not 100 but surely 99 times.

You all really did help me!
Thank you!
nightdream

[lorieann]

I have known people like that who only help someone because they are looking for attention from other people...helping you and at the same time...telling people what an emotional drain you are or how much time you demand...and they even make things up to make their stories more interesting.
Luckily they usually cant keep it up for long...you learn a life lesson and move on.

i am very careful who i associate with. too many people knowing about your problems is not good. i mean in an anonmous forum like this...its defferent. but in real life you have to be careful who you tell your business to.
Liars suck. The best thing i ever learned in my life is not to put anything past anyone.

lorieann

[SeptemberMorn]

"Well maybe I'm exagerating not 100 but surely 99 times." hehehehe

[nightdream]

I have read all your replies to me about 23 times now. Well I think I did, I have lost count going to the bank. Greg, what was I suppose to bring with me to that bank? Was it pizza or chocolat?
Maybe I need SeptemberMorn to count with me. Or maybe I just need to give people hugs, which I really don't mind to give. I have plenty of it! Maybe I could sell some on a black marquet? Never know with me!

Thank you Lorieann for your reply and your caring!

(((((((((((((((((((((((Hugs! to all of you!))))))))))))))))))))))

nightdream

[(JD)]

yeah... I came back to this post because of it's title... unfortunately, I wanted to post, but someone who is very narcisstic will surely attack me for talking about how I have real trouble with ppl who lie.

And there's someone telling lies on this website, to me-about me- and it's really difficult to remain above it all.

But then, that person, being so strong minded narcisstic, probably doesn't know they're telling lies, do they? And their ego is so fragile, no one has the strength to come out and tell that one how mean they are acting...

Lies are one thing, misspeaking is another. And then, there's the responses we get because someone is mentally ill. . . what do we call that? I forget. But I try to cope by trying not to call it a lie... once lied to/ or about... well it's like you willnever trust that person ever.

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