Does anyone feel like they don't belong here?

I have never fit in anywhere, I am not good at anything, I have no friends, every time I try to fit in anywhere I do not. I don't understand why I fit no where in this world. I feel like i do not belong here and that I have no place. Does anyone else feel this way?

I used to want to belong and to just be normal, now I just hate the world. I view the world as being filled with terrible people who I cannot understand and I do not understand why they do the things that they do or think the way they think. I don't understand or like to live in a world where child abuse happens, or people murder each other, it drives me crazy.

I feel like i have no place in this world or like I wasn't meant to be here. Can anyone relate to this?

Thats a hard place to be. I do know what you are saying. You have to be careful with it though. Wanting to cut yourself off from the rest of the world eventually makes it virtually impossible to rejoin it.

Do you ever feel as though you are in a huge bubble in which you can see out but no one can see you? Sort of like being invisible.

The thing about depression is that it isolates you. At first, people want to help. Over time, when you can't snap out of it, friends start to disappear. You can't force a smile and no one wants to hang around with someone who is gloomy all the time. What they don't understand is that its not what you want to be like. You can't just turn it off. You get labled as morose, lazy, a hypochondriac etc.

There are so many people in their own bubbles. One thing to remember though, is that the so called "normal" people, may look happy and well adjusted to the public, but then go home and drink, take drugs, fight etc.
You just don't see them in that situation. Hang in there. Cyber discussions are better than none at all.

Sam2

I feel like life is pretty much made of intersecting circles. You never fully fit in with something because your circles don't 100% overlap. But you can share different things with different people and together it makes you whole. I often feel like the odd one out in many social situations. One time I went to a club party and literally sat in the corner and sipped sprite the entire time. It was awful. But then an acquaintance of mine dragged me into the dance floor and got me to have fun a little. I didn't have a great time but a little part of me fit in with them at the moment--a slight overlap. Other times, I'm more centered and am helping drag other people into the circle. There are very rare times that we feel truly understood and like we belong but we are all built with similar parts and you can find people who share a lot of your interests and style of humor and all sorts of other things. To be honest, it's kind of awesome that everyone is so different and diverse because it means you can connect with so many people. The important part is to just keep trying. You and I are still looking for our niche. It's hard to find but in the end, very worth it.

Like Sam2 said though. Take care not to look only at dark spots of humanity--they are ugly and filled with hatred. People do good things everyday. In fact, today as I was carrying my groceries in, someone went out of their way to hold the door open for me. Look for the little things. There is light and goodness everywhere in this world, you just have to open your eyes to it.

But yes, I often feel like I don't belong. But I can't help but hope. Don't give up!

Best of luck!

I'm not convinced there's a place for me in this world either. I find every time I think I might get/have gotten something "positive" it's ripped away or it was a lie to begin with. I almost feel like I'll never find something that feels right and that I'll always be adrift in this sea of depression. My dad told me that it's my fault for having a negative mindset or something but that's just really frustrating. Yea it's my fault I think about suicide all the time. Thanks. That's ****ing helpful.

I feel the same way. I do have some friends but I don't feel connected with them or the rest of the world for that matter. Sometimes I feel like I am just going through the motions and not actually experiencing life. I don't feel like i am meant to be here either.

I hate when people say those things to people who are depressed. They have no idea what they are talking about.

I feel the same, that there's nothing for me here, or that I don't deserve to be here. I don't have any friends, never been in a relationship. There's no place I fit in. Even my chosen career I feel isn't right for me, which makes everyday that much more difficult.

I totally relate to what you wrote. I don't fit in anywhere either. Far too sensitive for this world.

I am sorry you also feel this way

I feel that way every day but for different reasons.

Also too sensitive for this world

"I don't fit in anywhere either. Far too sensitive for this world."

This struck a cord with me....Thank you

Sincerely,
Ridiculously Sensitive Sophiesmom <heavy sigh>

Same here.

I've been this way my whole life.

i feel that when it came to me, their was some kind of mistake

i was born without the knowhow or the ability to cope with life and it's problems, and here i am, not even halfway through life wishing i never existed

sad state of afairs.. so yes, i don't belong here

My therapist says "Don't compare your insides to other peoples outsides" - I try to remind myself of that whenever I notice I'm comparing myself to what I view as "normal" people...

Good post...

I feel like very often that I don't belong here on earth. I feel like I don't fit in at the places I go to. I have expressed myself about that here on PC before. It seems like it's always been like that. I feel like I don't belong with having to deal with not fitting in and sorrows that comes with living here on earth.

Great thread.

I think the only time I felt I "fit in" was when I was in high school and college because it was easier there to find people with similar interests, mind sets, and life experiences. However, even though I had lots of friends in high school, I never felt "connected" to them, probably because my home life sucked so much. In college, I found it easier to find friends I felt connected to, besides having things in common, but even then, I was usually a loner.

I tried to keep in touch with college friends, but no one reciprocated. I think part of the reason is that we all came from dysfunctional families which can make it hard to maintain stable, long-term relationships. As far as I know, no one from my "crowd" kept in touch with anyone. I think I'm the only person who tried.

But since I got out into "the real world" I've felt like a square peg all the time, in everything, everywhere, and the older I got, the worse it became. Since graduation, I've not made any real friends like I had in school. I never married or had children, which narrows your social possibilities as married people rarely maintain friendships with single people (even though I tried to).

Maybe I feel like a square peg because I was the square peg in my very dysfunctional family which may have cursed me into feeling I'm the square peg no matter what. They say you relate to the world the way you relate to your family. I don't know if this is just a cliché, but I it makes sense to me. I think that when one tries to "make a life" for oneself, this is where family history can really impact your efforts, much more so than when you were in school, which can be kind of a bubble.

--Ceara1010

Isn't it great when romantic partners and family members say things like that? I'm sorry you've had to hear that - it's brutally hurtful.

Yes, I think and feel these things constantly. I very much feel as if I don't belong here. Wherever I go, people seem to dislike me and find me strange. The only time I can be tolerated is if I try very, very hard and don't act too much like myself. It feels like the world and other human beings (though I don't feel like one of them) are trying to force me out. It's agonizing, and even though things are breaking down and I'm separating from myself and everyone else, I still feel the pain and anxiety all too often. I hate it all.

I had this great realization that I DON'T want to fit in. It is empowering, and the people I have seen out there, YUCK! We can have our own crew. Fitting in is overrated. Let's focus instead on how amazingly unique we all are!!!!!

Have you read The Highly Sensitive Personby Elaine Aarons (I think). It is nice and validating.

Thank you for posting this book.

I feel this way too when things get too much to deal with. I highly suspect that I am highly sensitive and it hard to fit into a world that is not.

I do have hope that I can help the part of me learn that with boundaries and safe places, it will be ok.

I do agree that I really don't want to "fit in" to a world that is not safe, but I do feel like I'm here for a purpose.

Thank you for starting this thread. That is actually the name of a part of me and it was encouraging reading the posts here.



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I know how you feel. I know it may seem hard to believe but you do belong. As cliche as it sounds, I think we all belong here for some reason even if we don't know why or feel like the world would be better off without us. Its been harder and harder for me to remember and believe that though lately.

I can totally relate to this and often still do. For along time I tried to get involved with different sports and activities and they most worked temporarily except for one. About 9 years ago I got involved with theatre and I have never stepped foot on stage as a performer. I have also been involved and interested in the technical aspects. Not only does it continue to keep me so busy I can't think sometimes, it connected me to a lot of other people that felt like they didn't have a place. It brings together people that feel lost and isolated and gives them a place and a pretty strong support system.

But unfortunately it has not been that for me lately and I am losing hope again faster and worse than before.