[hardknocklife4me]

I haven't lived with immediate family since a stint after my service in the military and no matter how much distance I put between my parents and siblings they still add to my frustration and pain.

I wrote about this earlier where I bought a car come to find out it was a lemon, bought it from a dealership that's an acquaintance of my dad (retired mechanic). Not even a full day of driving and I had major issues, my dad has never had a good track record of working on his kids or ex wife's (my moms car) everyone else was always and still is put ahead of us. Quite frankly the man doesn't like his 4 sons he had with our mom. And if you're wondering if this is made up, hmmmm he's said on many occasions that we think we're better than he is because we were never locked up in jail like he was a majority of his youth. The man was either locked up when one of us was born or he left my mom in the delivery room on her own that was the case with me.

Now I tried everything with this car I took it to two different shops and they screwed me on fixing it and I lost more money. 3000 bucks and counting so I had to use my moms backup car as of late which is no better than the car I bought simply because it's old. So I left the newer car at my dads not for him to work on because I know his track record and how he lies. I couldn't do anything with the car after exhausting money I already didn't have and now being behind in bills. I have to wait to get paid to try to get anything done and that's when dad calls and has taken the car apart and volunteering his services that I didn't ask nor want because I know the drama is not far behind. Now at this point I can't even take it to someone since his disabled it. He tells me all these parts it needs I shelled out the cash and one thing after another.

Here's the fun part I'm about 3300 into this car that I haven't really driven. All behind on bills trying to get a break at least and have a car. He calls and says it needs a radiator and that's 60.00 I didn't have it so he used his personal money and no I didn't ask him too at all I said just wait until payday. He says no I want the car out of my yard so you can have it back. And here's where the negativity comes in like I knew it would. My mom his 2nd ex wife's car breaks down and he stopped everything on my car to address hers only beciase she cursed him out. He's called all my brothers and mom to tell them that "look this stupid boy has me sinking money into his car" and all I can say is wow... I told him I didn't ask him to do that but yet I'm stupid. According to him and my mom they don't see how I've made it own my own or how I became a marine. Nice words from family huh? No wonder I'm depressed and angry, I got dealt a crappy hand in this life and I try my best to do my best and at every turn I'm ridiculed by any and everyone. And the only person I have in my corner is my oldest brother but ironically he suffers from major depression. So I don't have many to talk to and it gets overwhelming. I've done the medication been on 4 and none helped. I go to work and come home it's all I do. A few friends but they live in other states. I feel alone and the way my family is towards me make me feel as though I'm just another burden

[kaliope]

I am a firm believer of cutting off ties with family if all they are doing is harming you. I certainly don't believe that blood is thicker than water. you do not owe any allegiance to those that mentally and emotionally abuse you. would you keep a friend that treated you the same way? not likely. surround yourself with people that uplift you and support you. it is especially important if you are prone to depression. and don't give up on antidepressants. there are so many out there. keep trying them. if you don't notice a change within a couple months, try something else. don't let them increase dosages and prolong taking something that isn't working. if something is going to work, you will notice a difference. you just have to be strong and advocate for yourself with your doc. I tried several and then finally found the one that worked. it was like a miracle. take care.

[hardknocklife4me]

Originally Posted by kaliope

I am a firm believer of cutting off ties with family if all they are doing is harming you. I certainly don't believe that blood is thicker than water. you do not owe any allegiance to those that mentally and emotionally abuse you. would you keep a friend that treated you the same way? not likely. surround yourself with people that uplift you and support you. it is especially important if you are prone to depression. and don't give up on antidepressants. there are so many out there. keep trying them. if you don't notice a change within a couple months, try something else. don't let them increase dosages and prolong taking something that isn't working. if something is going to work, you will notice a difference. you just have to be strong and advocate for yourself with your doc. I tried several and then finally found the one that worked. it was like a miracle. take care.

Thank you very much

[sph123]

I know how you feel. My family makes my life so much harder than it needs to be. I, too, have few friends. Most are married and have families. I really don't have anyone in my corner or anyone to lean on. So I feel pretty overwhelmed with life in general and your post resonates with a lot of the same feelings I have.

[hardknocklife4me]

Originally Posted by sph123

I know how you feel. My family makes my life so much harder than it needs to be. I, too, have few friends. Most are married and have families. I really don't have anyone in my corner or anyone to lean on. So I feel pretty overwhelmed with life in general and your post resonates with a lot of the same feelings I have.

Well you can lean on me if you'd like maybe I could be a listening ear or we could help each other

[waterknob1234]

I don't see where your dad gets off calling you "stupid". Lets see, according to your post he has been in and out of jail and you have been a Marine. Its not easy to be a Marine. Now who really has done more with their life? So don't be down on yourself. I think I would stick with the brother who is in your corner and avoid the negative family members as much as possible. Believe me, I have difficult family members so I know where you are coming from.

[hardknocklife4me]

Originally Posted by waterknob1234

I don't see where your dad gets off calling you "stupid". Lets see, according to your post he has been in and out of jail and you have been a Marine. Its not easy to be a Marine. Now who really has done more with their life? So don't be down on yourself. I think I would stick with the brother who is in your corner and avoid the negative family members as much as possible. Believe me, I have difficult family members so I know where you are coming from.

Thank you and just when you think that was bad my own mom jumps on the bandwagon with my issues with this lemon of a car I bought. She tells me it's all my fault and that I need not be bad at the salesman the dealership or be frustrated with my dad for selling and convincing me to by the car and even my mom at the time said it's what you can afford you need a car so get it. Now with the mounting repairs she said it's your fault be mad at yourself and the bad decisions you make. Wow kick me while I'm already down with no working car and have to get to work.

To both of them they blame us for ruining their lives they couldn't live out there dreams. Last time I checked I nor my brothers asked to be born but it's funny when we are doing good things they brag to the few friends they have. But behind our backs they talk about and degrade us and that I'll never understand and it makes me think was I ever important

[hardknocklife4me]

I must have screwed over someone in life or I'm just not liked

[Fuzzybear]

[hardknocklife4me]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thanks fuzzy I'm trying to stay positive but I'm being hit from all sides and let down