Really fed up

I'm not sure I'm going to continue to be a member here. There is one person in particular who has been ruining this foram for a long time. It's all about her and only her, it's ok for her to attack others but not ok for others to have a difference of opionion, she has allready chased me off the PTSD board, shuts down threads left and right because she makes it personal and every word is aimed at her in her mind when most of the time they are not. When she is not feeling attacked she can have some good insights but the balance is just too far one sided. I'm fed up with it.

Why not just "block" that user so she/he does not upset you???

(and I sure hope it was not me)

- actually on this website they refer to it as your "ignore list"

I agree with UM.. Can you put this person on "ignore"?

Yes, use your ignore button....

Don't let her chase you off....

Do it. It helps. I'm sure putting me on ignore has helped several people

I agree use the ignore feature. Don't let one person ruin it

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I am afraid of retaliation if I do that because years ago before she got three of my friends kicked off I friended her.
Do you think it would work to use the ignore button?
I do realize a large part of my redaction is because my entire life I have defended those that got picked on by bullies. In grade school I I fought them by 6th grade I had the words to defeat the bullies without being physical. It just really sets me off when someone thinks only their feelings matter and any one else is inconsequential. Especially when they get away with that behavior time after time. This is the kind of person who goes after other people by pushing their buttons until they snap back. You know the kind that tease their sib lies until they struck and then go crying to mom. Often they think someone's witty remark or humor is directed solely at them, when it's not.

But to be honest I feel so useless and don't think anyone would miss me. I was surprised to see any responses. I think I'm getting extremely depress and overwhelmed with trying to move.

No, useless it is not you or anyone here. I don't think she's been to the depression forum for a while, that's why I chose here to post this.

Don't leave sidestepper.

There are two posters here I find have 'attitude' but I ignore them.

I don't see the point of posting unless you are going to be supportive. Most of us on here feel vulnerable, to be invalidated or attacked is the last thing we need.

Discussion is good, I like that, to be doubted or criticized I do not like.

I suck at advice but I agree with the ignore feature. Or you could try talking to her about it, could be a mis understanding

Amen to that....

Listen. Use the ignore feature......And FWIW, I would be okay if someone did it to me. There's a lot of people here and there are bound to be some personality clashes. Which, on the "outside" might be manageable, but not in here.

I, personally find the Depression forum to be particularly empathetic (I have only visited a couple of other ones here so that's just my experience)

Thanks everyone.

I had something to eat and am feeling a bit better and more in balance.

I'm going to suck up and use the ignore button. I'm just feeling too vulnerable and touchy to do what I usually do; tell myself to blow it off.

Mom I agree the depression forum is one of the most empathic.

I don't think she would know if you put her on ignore. I am not sure how it works though.
I don't see how she could get others banned from this site. The mods seem pretty hands off to me. I have moderating gaming sites before and it took alot to actually ban someone.

I don't know how much time & energy you put into PC, Sidestepper. But my thought would be that it would be better to find something else to go to before you leave PC. If PC isn't that big a deal for you at this point, that may not be difficult. If it is important to you, then this may be more of a challenge. But I think it's better to be leaving something because you've found something else rather than to be leaving because there's something about PC you can no longer tolerate.

That's really good advise skeeztks. This is the only support I have currently. I had to stop seeing my T because of transportation issues and I've pretty much isolated myself since my back problems began. This one person is not PC and I'm in an irritable very tired state which makes me react before thinking. Normally I probably think too much before acting on impulses.

Yes, Sidestepper, I have the back problems too... & transportation limitations. So I'm also pretty isolated. Were it not for the internet, I'd be one hurtin' unit! I hope you can find a way to hang in here comfortably.

Don't be afraid. You could be angry but that clouds judgment. You could fight back but I think this is one of those time that it isn't the best course of action But I think ignore is the way to go here. You may recall a while back when a small group of people (including your antagonist I think) tried to get me banned? Didn't work out so well. There are ways of dealing with this kind of thing. When someone uses the sympathy card often enough it becomes obvious that this is the way they operate. Mastering the art of drawing sympathy is not a healthy strategy and in the end the lack of integrity may even become clear to the person using it. Or maybe not... but it's does become clear to others until eventually there's nobody else to play.
Hit that button

Yes I have noticed that some tend to be a bit melodramatic and it seems they are just looking for attention. There are healthier ways to get your needs met.

Sidestepper, please don't leave/let another drive you off. I agree that the ignore feature would be very beneficial in this case... it's there for a reason (so those that touch your buttons can't).

This is her baggage... her problem... so, you should and have the right to not let it become your baggage/problem. I can relate to how difficult that advice can be to follow, as I for one have been guilty of letting others throw their issues down my throat to the point that I'm worrying and carrying their burden as well as mine not healthy... but the great thing about the internet is that it's internet space rather than them getting physically in your face... win win

I agree with everyone else try the ignore button and see if it helps before you leave. Don't let one bad apple ruin the barrel of support and help.

I did use it and it is amazing.

Thank you all for the great feedback.