[Whoaminoone]

I won't go into any detail or anything as I've learned I've been too "open" about myself already. I'm just very conflicted about something and have no one else to ask.
I think I want to write letters to my kids. Just to explain things and how nothing was their fault. The problem is I don't think anyone would give them to them. Even though a couple of the younger ones can read, they're too young to comprehend and the youngest can't read. It's not things I will be able to explain to them in a talk, so I'm just torn on what to do.
Maybe they would understand things more than I'm giving them credit for though. I guess kids tend to comprehend more than we think sometimes.

I guess I'm just asking, do you think you would write letters to your kids trying to explain why things are the way they are? Or do you think some things are just better left without explanation? My intent isn't to "turn them against" anyone. Or maybe it's ok to write it all down, but destroy it without actually giving it to anyone.
What is your opinion?

[gayleggg]

I have often asked myself the same question. Even started a letter to my daughter but didn't feel it was coming out the way a wanted it to sound. I decided it was best to leave the past behind. I realized I would have to leave some things out to protect her, but they were important parts. She is now 38 and I believe she knows I have always meant well and always loved her. I figured that was enough.

Your situation maybe different. I would suggest you write the letters and see how you feel. You will know then if it will be for their good or not.

[Curupira]

Writing things down can help sort out emotions and figure out necessary steps.

If you want my two cents, I say write the letters be as honest and kind as you can, and make the decision whether or not to post them later. Once you re-read them you will be able to decide if they are something your children will benefit from. Additionally it may give you some clarity so you can better explain your condition later.

Something in your post worried me though. Please, don't take offence, this is me concerned about you not criticising: These letters are a just in case right? Not something else?

I hope you are doing ok. Lots of hugs