I have to call out sick. Why so ashamed of myself then?

I'm barely getting enough sleep tonight. If I go to work I could lash out or have difficulty doing anything. I'be filed for intermittent FMLA, but this will be the first time using it. I have a new employee that I have no one else to help me train.

But not sleeping can be torture on me at work and I can't imagine coping right now. I'm so ashamed to take the day as FMLA. What will my new employee think about me taking a sick day? Why can't I do what others do and cope when I'm sleep deprived?

I have a brief time to make up my mind. I just feel I can't cope today and need to try to get back on a decent sleep cycle. I'm sick of failing like this. I'm so ashamed of myself.

Don't be ashamed, you have NOTHING to be ashamed about. Take the day off. Sleep.

Do you know what is causing you to not get a good nights sleep?
Are you taking meds? they can cause it or the depression can cause it.

Can you get some med help in getting back on a normal sleep cycle?

Chamomile tea and Melatonin work pretty good.
Not getting enough or the right kind of sleep can really screw you up.

Do not feel bad about calling out sick!!!!!! Especially for lack of sleep.

I have called out for less serious reasons (avoiding a conflict for one). I wouldn't hesitate to call out for not being rested - in fact I have done it - or gone in late.

If you have a doctor you're seeing I would inquire about meds or natural aids if you're not already taking something for sleep. It might make you feel less guilty if you know you're trying to help the situation? Sometimes just asking the questions to my drs about things makes me feel better - not even the answer just knowing I asked.

Having been a new employee and trained a few myself - I would think it would be appreciated that you decided to stay home instead of going in irritable or unable to function because you hadn't slept.

I hope you can get some rest soon. And don't beat yourself up.



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Once again I can't get any sleep. I'm ashamed that I may just have to call out sick because of it. Being depressed means being more sensitive of sleep deprivation. I'll try to get work done at home but it will still go against my earned time and once again I'll be back to nearly zero hours of earned time off.

I hate being a disappointment.

I agree that if you're not on sleep medication already, you may want to consider looking into this. If I didn't take certain bedtime medication now (trazadone, Xanax and saphris), my sleep would really suffer. On those meds, I feel well rested after about 7 hours of sleep (with a brief interruption or two).

Please don't feel guilty for having a problem with something that is very crucial to your wellbeing and functioning - - sleep! Lots of people struggle with it. You could always just go into work, and if it seems to be too much, you can always go home. Is that an option? At least you would have given it a go, and maybe that would ease your guilt some.

Take the time off! This is a serious problem for me too, taking the time off when I know that I am not able to function at work.

I agree with the other posters, see if you can use the day off to check in with whomever is prescribing medications to you.

Also, is there anyway you can ask for an accommodation at work so that you start later in the day? So that if you are having trouble sleeping, you can sleep a little later, come in a little later, still get to work, but just need some flexibility in scheduling so that you can function properly? I don't think it's a huge accommodation to ask for.

Also, if you can work from home, maybe you can just work it out so that two days a week you have a set schedule of working from home, so that you can sleep a little later or take a nap if you need to, if the insomnia is getting so bad.

No sleep sucks worse than anything. I really feel for you. I have just been getting some relief with medications, although they aren't stopping the nightmares, they are helping me actually stay asleep all night. And even that, makes a huge difference.

Good luck and passing along restful thoughts.



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Akakaomen, I am sorry that you are not getting enough sleep. A few bad days we can all live with, but, this has a cumulative effect on the body and then its back to another night of bad sleep. My doctor put me on seroquel for sleep 50 mg. It does help, and my mind is not racing like it was. Although I can take 100 mg if I want. Please go to your doctor. Get help. Dont feel bad for taking a day off. I dont feel one bit bad and I am taking a week!

Staying home today can help with your immediate problem, but this will keep happening, if you have a chronic sleep disorder. That can end up wrecking your life. I know this first hand. One way to feel less guilty is to address the problem, if it is chronic.

The first thing to do is practice good sleep hygiene. There are tons of articles on line about that. A lot of it is common sense. Try to have a regular time for going to bed at night and stick to it. If you are staying up late, then you will feel guilty not getting up for work because you will know that you should have gone to bed earlier.

Despite your best efforts, you may not be able to get on a good sleep schedule. That is when medication can be worth it's weight in gold. There is always over-the-counter "Benadryl." Get the generic version. It's the same thing but way, way cheaper. If that doesn't work, then talk to your doctor. Some people just don't sleep normally, and it does affect your ability to cope with everything else.

Thanks all. I am trying to be forgiving of myself. I will see if there is an option when I talk to my doctor. Work stress can often keep me awake, so trying to clear my mind to get back to sleep can be difficult. Once again I need to work on those cognitive skills.

You have a strong sense of duty is all that is wrong. People like this burn out all the time. You should see the kill rate of "baby" attorneys who take jobs in big firms. They work until they blow up, then they are out of a job.
Your number one priority, unless you are a parent or married, should be taking care of yourself.