Why can't I be happy?

StbGuy is right if you'd like to talk in person. Opening up with "Do you have some time right now? There is something I'd like to talk to you about" is a great intro into it. And then you can start talking about how you feel. Maybe something along the lines of "I've been feeling really down recently and it's been getting overwhelming as of late" and then just describe your feelings and etc. Your teacher should be able to guide the conversation from there but definitely don't be afraid to ask if he knows any resources for depression that you could use.

I recommend talking in person but it's also alright to email the teacher first asking to set up a time. You don't have to go into detail but setting up a time that way may give you and the teacher a bit more time to prepare. People really do want to help so please feel free to lean on them for support. It's scary but the weight it can lift from your shoulders is most definitely worth it!

As for your friends, they may be generally good people but that doesn't mean you have to tell them. To be honest I'm not quite sure how many of my friends would understand it either. It's your personal problem so you can choose who to tell. Don't feel obligated.

If your teacher noticed you were sad - maybe you can let him know you overheard what he said about you looking sad?

Hey teacher, do you have time to chat?
If he does you could say " remember the other day, I heard you tell someone I looked sad... Well-- I do look sad because I feel sad, and I can't shake it and I was really having trouble finding a way to talk to someone because my family doesn't understand but I felt like you might, or maybe you can get me in touch with someone who might?

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Basically, these questions are "icebreakers". It's a good "bridge" mechanism. You're right that you can't really jump in and say "hey teacher, guess what, I've got depression!" that is way too abrupt. But, if you can come up with "middle-ground" questions, that's good. When you say "Do you have some time? I need to talk to someone" that already sets the scene. He knows something is up and gives him time to prepare too, like keeprolling said. So, if you can think of any questions like these, you will easily be able to reach out and make the whole process much simpler.

Ok, So I have this class soon. I don't know if I have the guts to tell him, because I am scared.

Hopefully I wouldn't be too scared, but I always end up getting to scared, & not doing it.

Should I just ask to talk to him,or say that I need to tell him something?
How much should I tell him? What should I say at first?

About the suicidal thoughts, do I tell him right away,or later on?

Sorry for so many questions, & for saying I tell someone, but then I end up not.

Just say you would like to talk to him privately. Then tell him you think you may suffer from depression and don't know what to do about it. You don't know how to get help. Don't mention the suicidal thoughts.

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Just DO it.

Go and so it. Good luck.
(((((fox))))))

How are you doing, foxandthehound?

Not the best. I feel depressed, & I have been feeling like a burden to people lately.

Plus, I'm angry I chickened out, & didn't tell him.

Understand that.
Do it next oppurtunity, its for your good.
(((((hugs)))))

I really don't see the point in living anymore.

I have no two sense of mine to share especially since i don't either see the point.
Hugs.

I just keep feeling like a burden, more & more. I really want to die right now suicidal thoughts comfort me.

Suicidal thoughts aren't the answer that you are looking for. That is a long term solution for a short term problem. I understand that you feel bad about not talking to him but as long as you are here you can still try again and trust me, we all have billions of regrets. But you won't be able to fix that regret if you leave.

You are stronger than this. Even if you don't feel strong. We all believe in you

I'm so sorry for you, must be so difficult. Don't worry, there'll always be next time. One day you'll find the courage, you'll see. Many hugs.

Maybe you are Doc or Sneezy?



(sorry weak attempt at humor)

Thank you. I don't why I can't tell him, why it is so difficult to tell some one. I can't even send him the email. Gosh, I am stupid for not telling someoe, being scared.

And, I just can't stop feeling like a burden, & it just gets worse.I feel liek a burden to my friends.

You aren't stupid for being scared. We all get scared and I still find it hard to send out emails too (in fact I should have sent one out last week but I've delayed it haha). What is stupid is the fact that we beat ourselves up for things like this. It isn't a mistake you know. Only a delayed success. If you want we can help you write the rough draft of an email to send to him so you just have to copy and paste it and click the button It's okay to be terrified - heck, I'm terrified most of the time. But don't let that stop you from keeping on reaching out.

And as for feeling like a burden, all I can say is that you aren't. The harder part is to believe it though. We all want to be the person helping others but we forget that there are times in which all we can do is accept the help and love until we can stand up again. You're just going through a rough patch. You need the support so don't be ashamed of taking it

Yea, if you(or someone else) could help me write it, that would be wonderful. Should I PM you?
I really don't think I can do it person, I can't even tell my best friend, & she knows everything. So, I think a email would be easier for me. I think. Not sure though

It is hard for me to believe I am not a burden to other. I don't know why I feel like this, I don't like to, but I just feel like a burden.

Don't worry, you're not alone. Everyday I feel like a burden to somebody around me, even people I don't know or ever met in person. And as for not writing the email or talking to the teacher - that's very normal when you've got depression. It once took me 2 years before I could send a certain someone in my life at the time a message about something I really wanted to tell them. I would try to rationalize and predict all the different outcomes for hours everyday, trying to think up reasons why I shouldn't do it, trying to foresee what the person's answer would be and then using that to discourage myself. But, the truth is, there is absolutely no way of accurately knowing how that person will respond, and it's often a lot less dramatic than how you envisioned it. When you constantly think about the response, "how will they take it?" you automatically assume the worst case scenario, at least, that's how I always see things. The truth is though, you really can't say until you've tried. Almost all of the time your assumptions about the outcome never materialize, and all that worry is for nothing.

Of course! I'd love to help PM or post here and let me know how detailed you want to make the email. We can work through it together email is definitely 100% okay to explain the situation and get the ball rolling. He may want to meet with you afterwards but if you aren't comfortable with that we can just let him know that email is the preferred way of contact. It definitely is scary to tell your friends. To be honest only one of my friends know that I suffer with depression. It is nice to lean on a shoulder but don't feel pressured to tell a friend especially if you're worried they won't be very... Receptive.

See but there is the thing though, you feel terrible about even potentially being a burden and that just shows me once you get out of this patch, you'll be providing so much support to everyone in your life and double it with interest because they have stood with you through rough times. You're a good person with good intentions. Don't forget that

You are not a burden. People who understand are happy to help. Helping others helps them. You in turn will help others. That is how it works.

Thank you.
I really don't care if we do it by PM, or here. Which ever you prefer.

When would you want to get started? & My friend told me that I am really negative, & never positive, & that I have to "look in the bright/postive" side, but I can't.

Hi sorry for the delay, I just got back from meeting up with my father. We can start pretty much now go ahead and PM me with how much detail you want to go into and I'll help write it with you!

As for positivity, that's something that you'll have to break yourself into. Very rarely do people suddenly turn over and realize the world is a positive wonderful place haha. So the real key is to try and understand what exactly your friend wants from you and how much you want to do. If they seem to want less negativity maybe they're telling you some of the things you say bring down their happy mood. Or maybe they want you to be more supportive. Try to read more into what they want and how much you're willing to change your behavior to make them happy.

I'm a major people pleaser so I tend to go above and beyond to fill people's emotional needs but that doesn't mean you have to. And also, people will always be able to nitpick your behavior no matter how perfect it is so don't take their comments too seriously haha.