Depressed because...

I can't find a satisfactory relationship because of my looks. I honestly think women think I'm seriously unattractive.

As proof, I offer the following:

I had a profile on match.com a while back, and despite having a professionally taken photo of myself, over 1000 women looked at my profile, and not one wrote me a message. Any messages I sent to women who looked at my profile were ignored. Once in a blue moon, I would get a response from someone who only wanted to play stupid games, and more rarely, a coffee date.

I joined an introduction service that cost me $1400.00. All but two women I was matched up with rejected me (the service required the women to make the first call). The one who did call was someone I already knew from a singles group I belong to, and the second proved to be totally unsuitable.

I can occasionally get dates, but it usually results in one of the following outcomes:

a) a second date never happens
b) 'let's just be friends'
c) 'you're just not my type' (or some other similar BS, usually a variant of the LJBF garbage that women often hand men they don't like/don't find attractive)
d) she turns out to be a dinner/drink *****

The only women I seem to be able to get at all are women who have serious problems, or financially desperate women who have kids or are unemployed/disabled and can't get any better options. The women with kids are obvious to me up front, but sometimes it takes a couple of dates before I realize they've got serious problems and/or a ton of baggage and being involved with them is a liability, not a benefit. Anyone who has their **** together doesn't want me, even though I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, own my own home, have a decent car and a decent job.

Women will sometimes say I look OK or 'not unattractive', but I think they do this because they don't want to tell the truth, and think they're sparing my feelings by not telling me the truth.

Nobody ever tells me I'm handsome or good looking. Women also avoid looking at me. A few will smile back if I smile at them, but none give me a smile otherwise.

Nobody ever asks if I'm married or have a girlfriend (I was married once, but I think she only married me because I have a half-decent job and she was looking for a walking bank machine).

Nobody I'm even remotely close to ever offers to set me up with someone they know, despite the fact that they know I'm single and looking.

I have no friends because people can't stand how I look. People seem to pity me rather than show any respect. Being short and fat doesn't help, but nothing I've tried will take off the weight and keep it off.

The few family members I have left want very little to do with me. At most, it's a once-a-year invitation to Christmas dinner, which seems to be extended more out of guilt than love. The rest of the time, I'm ignored. I have a half-sister who says she loves me but mysteriously can't find the time to even have a simple lunch with me.

Some who have never met me and know nothing about my situation might say that I just need more confidence. It's kinda hard for me to feel good about myself or have self-confidence when people can't get past my looks, and it seems like everyone and everything rejects me.

In short, I'm about as unloved and unwanted as anyone could be. Even convicted murderers and pedophiles have a better life than I do because they can find partners. I don't fit in anywhere, I don't belong, and I wish I could just leave this horrible, benighted planet and never come back.

I'm sorry, you have a reason for your "depression", your post has caught me off guard.

I'm sorry.
There is no need to feel unloved here. We care.
The book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz has some good points in it.
A summary of one of the agreements is:
Don't take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

I have a really hard time with this too. It really is worth it to feel immune to the opinion of other people though!

Never forget that you are more important than you can ever realize!!

Feeling sad is not the same as having depression.
Sorry, I don't mean to seem unfeeling, it can actually cause more suffering than clinical depression. I know because I remember how things used to affect me before I became depressed, so I'm not trying to minimise what you're going through. It sounds tough.
I just had to clear that up because it's so commonly misunderstood these days that it makes it even harder for people with clinical depression to explain themselves.

There is so much that goes into "finding someone." I worked out like a mad man and looked darn good for a number of years. I met some really bad chicks over those years and it turned me off to dating completely. That was a 10 year period. I finally quit working out, starting eating pizza each week and said who gives ***. Life was slowly better and I loved just bumping into people for coffee and talk. Most often looks has little to do with it. It is all about your confidence, rate of speech and how appealing your soul is. If you sound selfish, angry, hyper,nercous this can play a part in the initial meeting.