[Avatar10]

Hi,
I am currently trying the online dating thing and it is fun so far. Haven't met anyone in person yet, but I did that last year. I just wanted to ask if anyone else has tried dating online and what challenges/successes they've had.

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I went on match.com and met my first husband. Too bad the marriage only lasted a year. I recall having some good dates and bad dates from match.com. I think it's not a bad way to meet someone. At least you know the time you're spending is on someone who's really in the market.

[Avatar10]

Thank you for your reaponse newgal2
Sorry to hear about your divorce. I am also on match.com and I have met great guys and not so great. I agree with you, it's a good online website overall. I am trying to take it not too seriously to avoid getting anxious and depressed if things don't pan out.



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I've done online dating and dating before online such as dating services and the old placing an ad in the newspaper. I was unsuccessful at everyone of those. On line dating was a complete joke for me. I didn't like every woman that I went out with. I got dates with them because they answered my ad. When I picked women out that I thought that I would like, they never answered back. So when the women answered my ad, there were not many that I liked from the start, but I thought that I would give them a chance.

Well, I gave them a chance and asked them for a second date. Asking them for a second date was a "benefit of the doubt" for me. But I did it anyways and they turned me down.

I would highly not recommend on line dating. There are just too many phonies on them. You could be going out with someone that's married and not know it. Also there had been cases where men got dates and then the women would led them to thugs waiting for the man to rob him. Another is that in the area where live recently, two women had been raped and murdered when they met men on Christian Mingle.

So be careful!

[Avatar10]

Oh my!! That's horrible.
I've heard from some guys stories crazy situations like that. You're right, everyone must be cautious when doing online dating. I am very cautious. So far, when I suspect ANYTHING I stop communicating with a guy altogether. And I don't let them know where I live and stuff like that.

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[hvert]

It sounds like you are having fun with it, and that's what matters, right?

Online dating never really worked for me, but it had more to do with my approach than the format. I would contact people that fit certain criteria I thought was important, or who had interesting profiles, but those weren't the people I necessarily got along with best, if that makes sense? People would look good on paper, but I'd find myself really not enjoying spending time with them in person.

Good luck with your dates

[ginaaa22]

Originally Posted by Avatar10

Hi,
I am currently trying the online dating thing and it is fun so far. Haven't met anyone in person yet, but I did that last year. I just wanted to ask if anyone else has tried dating online and what challenges/successes they've had.

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I met my fiance on craigslist only because my previous husband gave me genital herpes and I didnt want to meet people in public. We are getting married in two weeks and I couldnt be happier

[bluetriangle]

Originally Posted by Avatar10

Hi,
I am currently trying the online dating thing and it is fun so far. Haven't met anyone in person yet, but I did that last year. I just wanted to ask if anyone else has tried dating online and what challenges/successes they've had.

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Yes, I have and have had good luck with it. I met my current gf of 8 months there.

From a mental health perspective, one valuable thing I find wrt online dating, is that it's a reminder of some of the better parts of ourselves. Something we sometimes need a reminder about.

Good luck with the dating. Let us know how it's going!

[Avatar10]

Oh Ginaa22, That's fantastic!! Congratulations! Best of luck for you and your fiance!

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[Avatar10]

Thank you hvert
Liking someone online and not clicking off line happens a lot. But like you said, what matters is to enjoy the process of meeting new people . No expectations, just for fun, and if it goes to a different level, that's good too

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Thanks a lot bluetriangle!
For now, I 'm chatting with three interesting people and I'll be meeting with both soon .

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[live2ski66]

I did Match.com several years back and for the most part met very nice interesting people. One was the love of my life, but suffered from depression and one day checked out, but that is a different story. Prior to Match I allowed a friend to set me up with a friend of his. It was the worst experience ever.

Sometimes I'm overly cautious so before going out I would call my outlaws and let them know as much information as I had, the name of the person, where he was from, phone number if I had it, where we were going. My last instructions to my outlaws was that if I didn't call the the following day they were to call the police with the info. My outlaw Dad always chuckled, but took down the info. I felt better knowing that my family had some basic information if needed. Luckily they never had to call the police.

[Avatar10]

Did someone got dropped like a hot potatoe after telling your boyfriend you suffered from depression and were on meds? It happened to me, very discouraging 😢. All the 'love' and 'I want to be with you forever' vanished in a split second. I've never disclosed that info with a date of boyfriend again. I wonder why people are so judgmental of someone who has a disease but leads a normal life and takes care of themselves? So much for being honest and opening up...sigh...

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