[collegefriend]

hey all. i really don't know if i should be posting this here or BP but i am going to do it here. anyways my friend who has been diagnose with bipolar went with me on a road trip we went and visited a friend a had a blast! he was in such a great mood, smiling, making jokes actually having fun. but when we came back to school it went all down hill. we didn't talk at all he didn't answer my phone calls. When i saw him yesterday he looked so distant that his body was there but he wasn't. i really don't know what happened he took his meds and all that. I know i can't be there for him all the time but i makes me so upset when hes hurting and there is nothing i can do for him. I have been staying over at his apt. until very late because he has asked me too. he tells me he doesn't feel safe. I can understand that I mean his apt is where allot of his SI has taken place. Oh there is so much going on in his life and why is do good people have to suffer so much??? Well everyone thanks for listening i just needed to get this stuff out because none of my other friends understand what hes going through and what i am going through. Just thanks for listening.
Andrea

[shakes]

Andrea,
You are very sweet for caring about your friend so much. It is very commendable that you want to be there for him but just do not let his sadness consume you. In order to help him you cannot let his emotions get you too down. You are doing a wonderful thing by just being his friend.

Stay strong,
Jessica

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[(JD)]

Hi collegefriend, and welcome. Yeah, all of us would like to have a friend like you. I agree--- don't push yourself beyond your limits, he will need you to take care of yourself so you can help when you wish to.

You will find many ppl here that understand both sides of the situation like this... come back and post often. good wishes.

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[dexter]

if he is asking you to stay over that is a good sign i think, it shows two things, one, that he is worried about his safety and wants to take action to protect himself, and two, that he trusts you enough to tell you thatl

if he can't tell you everything that is going on for whatever reason, at least he is not pushing you away which would be more frustrating for you and bad healthwise for him.

like others have said, don't do more than you are able to and don't let his emotions swallow you. you have to keep your eye on your own boundries and make them clear to yourself and to him if necessary. but the fact he is letting you help him i think is a very good sign and reason for hope.

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