Hello

Hi everyone. Hoping this forum can help how I feel. I've been suffering from depression for 20 years now and the last 6 months have sent me spiralling. My Mom passed away 6 months ago and I had been living with her for 10 years and caring for her. When she died, I wanted to die with her but kept going because of my dog. Now my dog has died and I am truly alone. I'm single, no children and in my 40's. This pain is the worst I've ever felt. In a sentence, I feel like all the happy times are over.
Anyway, pretty doom and gloom but will read some posts and hopefully feel better soon. Thanks for listening. Any advice would be appreciated.

LIsa

Lisa,
I am sad for you. I cannot help you but I can be a friend.
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Lisa i dread also my moms death , i know how you feel, i hope you find someone or something to get you out of this grief, perhaps a grief group to begin

Welcome to PC.

That's a lot you are dealing with. Hard enough without having depression. Let yourself go through the grieving process. It is normal and healthy to grieve. Maybe you can find a support group.

Hi Lisa, welcome to PC!! It sounds like you've been through/are going through a lot and it's got to be really hard on you, I'm sorry
And, yes, hopefully we can help you a bit with the way you're feeling. There are some really understanding and supportive people on here.........and if it helps a little for now........you won't need to be alone.
I know things must be seem really painful, empty, hopeless......to you right now but it really isn't that long since the death of your mother and of your dog. Grieving can take time and be really painful........but that doesn't need to mean that you can't make it out the other side. And eventually hopefully the day will come when instead of pain when you think of your mother/dog, you'll be able to feel a warm feeling inside, you'll be able to smile at the memories, you'll be able to use their memories to bring you comfort.
And now while you're grieving.........try not to bottle things up, try to talk about the way you're feeling if/when you can, try to share some of the hurt/pain as well as some of the better times you had with them. And you know that they aren't really gone while you still carry them/their memories with you don't you...........they are still there with you, maybe try to allow that to give you just a little strength in what you're going through.
And if you need to check in (again?) with a doctor.........if things are really "bad".......no shame in that at all. So just keep it as an option if you need to.
But here.......well we're here for you so post as much as you want
Some great and understanding people on the Grief and Loss forum too if you want to check out there as well:
Grief and Loss - Forums at Psych Central
So again, welcome to PC, and I hope you find what you need/want on here.

Alison

Hello Lisa

Welcome to PC. I am a carer for my mum and know that one day I will face your situation. It is hard as mental illness steals away so much purpose and limits lives so drastically. Then you have to face the loss of the two things that gave you a purpose, no wonder you feel in a hopeless spiral. Grieving is a process that takes time, there are no good ways or bad ways to grieve, it is a personal journey that you must make at your own pace.

I know this might be far too soon, but is there any way you can have another dog? They are such good therapy. Maybe you could offer a foster home to a dog on a short term basis, that way you wouldn't be making a long term commitment or trying replace the dog you have just lost.