To depressed to accept help?

Hello Everyone,

Just a bit about me, I am 19 years old in college doing fairly well and I feel I should be having quite a few less problems then what I have. I've been going through this for about 8ish years and its was going ok. Until I left for my first job at Cedar Point (terrible time...) basically I worked about 70 hours a week and didn't really have any coping time like I had before so I just ran with it for the 3 months until my contract ran up in August. Once I got home everything went ok for a week or two before my mood dropped like a rock. Yet for the entirety of October I have been trying to tell my family I need help. Yet, it just never came out as they were often times trying to get me to go and get a new job to pay for my expenses or get kicked out after Christmas. Earlier this week I finally got an interview scheduled today and it went ok I put on my usual mask and I feel like I will get the job but it just is putting me under way to much stress to the point my mom noticed. She asked me if I was depressed and I blew the perfect opportunity to finally get help as I froze and said I was fine which I clearly know I am not Basically now I am stuck now unable to really ask for help due to how far this has gone and I don't have the energy to continue fighting to attempt to get help as it feels like a lost battle already.

Any help on how I should go about this?
Sorry for the block of text and sob story...

it is hard asking for help and even more difficult to admit we are having a problem. we want everybody to think we are strong. what i would do is write a letter to mom. say, hey, do you remember when you asked me if i was depressed and i said i was ok. well i didn't know how to tell you this because i didn't want you to worry. but i am really struggling. i have been for a while. and i really need help. i am having difficulty dealing with all this pressure. and then let it spill. letters are always easier.............take care.

Hello, Bishtaw. One of the cruelties of depression is that the illness itself is often a barrier to getting help.

kaliope's suggestion of a letter is good. I personally can express my needs more easily in print than face-to-face.

Consider getting a full medical exam and not just a depression screening. Depression can accompany or mask other problems.

Please keep posting.

Hi.

I'm going to disagree with the other responses in this thread.

Don't write a note to your mom. DECIDE what to do for yourself. If you need help, don't ASK for help, f***ing GET help.

I would advise getting checked out medically and telling your MD what you're going through. Just call up your family MD, make an appointment and get yourself down there on your own.

I have a feeling that you might enjoy and really benefit from something that helped me.

"SNAP CLUB"
http://forums.psychcentral.com/depre...n-escaped.html

I think this might help you get in touch with your own true inner vitality.

In any case, let us know how it goes.

- vital

Thanks, I am going to ask for help, unfortunately I wont be able to ask for a few days while my parents are out on their anniversary so ill have to postpone it till Monday But I will give the Snap Club a try until I can ask.
As for the doctors appointment what should I expect from the full medical exam?

That's starting to sound all healthy and empowered to me . I suspect that just the fact that you decided to do this on Monday has made you feel a bit better.

I think I know where you're coming from. You're at a time in your life that is a combination of scary and exciting - new things are definitely going to happen. The problem with being depressed at a time like this is you mainly will see the negative side. The whole thing about depressed people is that they unconsciously stop making decisions. You've got unavoidable decisions coming up and so this get's more and more stressful as long as you stay depressed. I suggested SNAP CLUB hoping that this will help you get in touch with your inner strength, your inner decider which is your own true self, in a way.

For the MD, I'd suggest telling him what's going on and how you feel about it in a completely honest and open way. My guess is that he will test for some of the purely medical issues that can cause depression. The MD might or might not suggest that you see a therapist, depending on their judgement and experience. Also, if, for instance, your MD recommends that you see a therapist, this will make it very easy for you to explain to your parents that this is something that you need to do.

- vital