[ace333]

I want to know if others feel the same or if I need some form of help. I have been feeling really unfulfilled in my life lately all of it. My relationship isn't the best I feel like I'm constantly begging for some form of sexual interaction as well as affection to no end. My job is getting overwhelmingly irritating, but I can't quit it. I'm unsure of the career I want to pursue. I'm like starving for something adventures and different. It has been crappy weather where I live...so cold and cloudy. I am a regular sufferer of SAD. Every year I hate winter and can't wait for spring I feel anxious all the time and it all combines together to make me feel unwanted depressed and unfulfilled. I find I just want nothing more to pack up and move to somewhere warmer, a lot of times I feel like that's the main reason I feel like I do. But in recent years I have been feeling this same unfulfilled feelings all year but yes lesser in warmer weather. What can I do to help or knock out these feelings

[Jan1212]

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, I feel the same and feel like I'm carrying a huge weight on my shoulders whereever I go. I started counseling and started seeing a pdoc and am taking anti depressants

I also am unsure of my career, want to move to a sunnier place, my husband turns me down and never in the mood. I feel like a burden to society

i feel un for filled too. but have no idea what would for fill me.

all the usual things people might want.. like a holiday abroad, or to get married, or a nice house, i don't want any of that

i'm not happy with my life, yet i want nothing

hmm

[ace333]

I know some of the things I want but their all out of reach. I want an adventurous life but I doesn't seem likely to happen. Whenever I get into these types of feelings he anxiety is like I'm waiting for something huge to happen or I feel like I have too much to do but then nothing happens and really I have nothing going on. Its good to know I'm not the only one out there with these feelings but it would be nice if they went away. I have been to counseling before it didn't really help but that perhaps I didn't really like the therapist. I could tell them everything but they didn't seem to involved they were older and seemed set in opinions. Some days I want to quit my job dump my bf and leave everything behind and start fresh and new. But then my logical brain says that's crazy and stupid. But is it?

[ace333]

Originally Posted by Jan1212

I'm sorry you are feeling this way, I feel the same and feel like I'm carrying a huge weight on my shoulders whereever I go. I started counseling and started seeing a pdoc and am taking anti depressants

I also am unsure of my career, want to move to a sunnier place, my husband turns me down and never in the mood. I feel like a burden to society

What is it with dudes not wanting to do it anymore. My bf used to never want to stop now I'm lucky if he wants to once a month. I tell him I need more often than once a month and I allow the I'm tired excuse Cuz he does work long hours. But really it make me feel unattractive which only adds to the " I want to run away" feelings

[vital]

Originally Posted by ace333

I want to know if others feel the same or if I need some form of help. I have been feeling really unfulfilled in my life lately all of it. My relationship isn't the best I feel like I'm constantly begging for some form of sexual interaction as well as affection to no end. My job is getting overwhelmingly irritating, but I can't quit it. I'm unsure of the career I want to pursue. I'm like starving for something adventures and different. It has been crappy weather where I live...so cold and cloudy. I am a regular sufferer of SAD. Every year I hate winter and can't wait for spring I feel anxious all the time and it all combines together to make me feel unwanted depressed and unfulfilled. I find I just want nothing more to pack up and move to somewhere warmer, a lot of times I feel like that's the main reason I feel like I do. But in recent years I have been feeling this same unfulfilled feelings all year but yes lesser in warmer weather. What can I do to help or knock out these feelings

Hi,

Since you're having SAD, light boxes and vitamin D spring to mind as things to try. In fact, I think you might start feeling better just from actively trying new things. I have a partial list of things to do here

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4162657-post74.html

Many of these things are either super-easy and fun (SNAP CLUB) or just great for your health anyway.

I've got no clue for the relationship situation, but feeling better yourself has got to help everything!

- vital

Originally Posted by ace333

I know some of the things I want but their all out of reach. I want an adventurous life but I doesn't seem likely to happen. Whenever I get into these types of feelings he anxiety is like I'm waiting for something huge to happen or I feel like I have too much to do but then nothing happens and really I have nothing going on. Its good to know I'm not the only one out there with these feelings but it would be nice if they went away. I have been to counseling before it didn't really help but that perhaps I didn't really like the therapist. I could tell them everything but they didn't seem to involved they were older and seemed set in opinions. Some days I want to quit my job dump my bf and leave everything behind and start fresh and new. But then my logical brain says that's crazy and stupid. But is it?

no.

it's not crazy

1 of the keys to life is finding a situation that we feel we can manage.

and if you want to start again, i think that's perfictly normal.

lots of people do... every single day

but if it were me restarting, well, not sure where i'd go or what i'd do.

hate my current life, but can't think of an alternative that pleases me

[annoyedgrunt84]

Weather can have a profound affect on one's mood. Personally I kind of like inclement weather, it makes feel more relaxed and at ease. I think since my baseline personality is slightly depressive it makes it easier for me to relate to other people. Summer on the other hand was always just long, hot, and boring. I rarely got to see friends, my family didn't go on lots of camping trips etc. Look up foods rich in Vitamin D and try to incorporate more of those in your diet that might help,or maybe you could try taking a supplement. Be sure to get some sun when you can and try to stay physically active, bundle up and go outside anyway .

[annoyedgrunt84]

And unfortunately I'm afraid I can't be much help in the relationship or career departments, if I had had lots of success in those areas I probably wouldn't be on these forums.