[Kowareta]

I've been having a lot of issues with relationships lately. Last year I wrote a letter to a guy telling him that I've liked him for four years. He had a girlfriend so I really don't get why I let my friends convince me to tell him. I'm a little torn because I'm glad that I was able to move on but it's like a huge part of my life disappeared with that letter. The guy actually stopped me from committing suicide four years ago. I just had no friends and he seemed to honestly want to be my friend, so it gave me just enough hope.

Well now I'm interested in a different guy and that seems so hopeless. I'm worried that he could never accept me, even if I did get a chance to go out with him. I'm working on becoming a friend of his, since that seems to be the most logical approach, but that isn't really working. I'm not the best at talking to new people and I only met him at the beginning of the school year, so I don't even know where to talk. A friend of his, and mine, said that he was into some stuff I am, but how would I even bring that up? I mean I can't just make it extremely obvious that I like him and I'm never really alone with him. That's really confusing me.

Also, I lost my best friend recently. She knows literally everything about me and my depression, so I was never afraid to talk to her about anything. My dad did something to upset me and I took it out on her. I've always been jealous of her, since I think so little of myself and she has everything (money, looks, a boyfriend, good grades, ect). We had a huge fight over this and I don't know how to make it up to her. I talked to her about it but I know she can't trust me anymore. I know that the only way to go back to the way we were is to "fix" my depression.

If anyone has any advice, that would be great.

[sideblinded]

I don't know why some ladies can't just let guys know that they like them. Why not let them know. Most guys really don't know if a girl likes them so it is worth a try. You may not get the response that you want but is it worth a try to you? Just be ready and guard your feelings if you are sensitive.

I have never heard of a fix for depression as it is something to be treated and kept from getting worse. I don't know if you can start over with some people as sometimes it just doesn't work. This is when it is time to start over and make new friends and bring what you have learned with you into the new friendship. Best wishes.

[Kowareta]

Originally Posted by sideblinded

I don't know why some ladies can't just let guys know that they like them. Why not let them know. Most guys really don't know if a girl likes them so it is worth a try. You may not get the response that you want but is it worth a try to you? Just be ready and guard your feelings if you are sensitive.

I have never heard of a fix for depression as it is something to be treated and kept from getting worse. I don't know if you can start over with some people as sometimes it just doesn't work. This is when it is time to start over and make new friends and bring what you have learned with you into the new friendship. Best wishes.

See because of what happened last year I'm really cautious about telling people my feelings. And it's just that I want to be friends with him first before I say anything, considering I could actually bring myself to.

[Cal30]

Kowareta,

I sense a lot of pain and loneliness in your post.

I think one thing that would help you and help others help you, would be to start separating the different issues that you're dealing with, address them one by one and start putting them into the form of a question. This gives everyone a target to aim for.

Maybe your questions are things like this?:

1) How can I re-establish my friendship with my former best friend?

2) How can I get a boyfriend?

3) How can I get a guy to know that I like him?

Each one of these could be a different post with replies, questions and lots of back and forth to help you address each issue individually.

We can't give you the right answer to every question 100% of the time, but we have a better shot at it this way.

Hope that helps.

Cal

[Kowareta]

Originally Posted by Cal30

Kowareta,

I sense a lot of pain and loneliness in your post.

I think one thing that would help you and help others help you, would be to start separating the different issues that you're dealing with, address them one by one and start putting them into the form of a question. This gives everyone a target to aim for.

Maybe your questions are things like this?:

1) How can I re-establish my friendship with my former best friend?

2) How can I get a boyfriend?

3) How can I get a guy to know that I like him?

Each one of these could be a different post with replies, questions and lots of back and forth to help you address each issue individually.

We can't give you the right answer to every question 100% of the time, but we have a better shot at it this way.

Hope that helps.

Cal

Thanks I'll try that.