[ForevahAlone]

This is redundant, as I've already posted about my pathetic virginity/lack of a simple date, but I'm as distressed by it as I can possibly be. I have average standards. I want a nerdy, antisocial, smart guy. The male version of me. That's it! I can't even get guys like that to be interested in me. They all want supermodel types. I'm tired of being overlooked simply because I'm not a ten. I'm like a four and I'm being incredibly generous. Ugh. I hate this.

[Hexagram]

Don't stop looking... the nerd of your dreams could be around the next corner.

[Keyslost]

^ Hex is right . More specifically, since you want someone quiet like you it's gonna be harder for that match up to happen naturally, but it prob will, just will take longer. Age also helps, everyone is more accepting as they get older (in general). Which reminds me they all may be in school and focusing on their jobs. (sounds like an excuse but nowadays people are in fear of getting a good job) Imo careful not to sell yourself short you sound down to earth and humble very rare these days. (and humor there too ) Hang in there!

[ForevahAlone]

I hope so. Lol. It just seems unlikely. A lot of it is my fault. I'm an introvert to the max. It's sickening.

[Keyslost]

I wouldn't feel guilty about it, rather embrace it. I might be considered introvert and you talk to me well enough

[tz90]

Being introverted and depressed sucks. It's so hard to get anyone attracted. Good to know that there are women out there, which actually seek someone like me. I think it's cute that you never had a date. I had a few dates and they weren't that great. I got blown off for my poor social skills and low confidence by girls that aren't supermodels. You can find these type of guys in computer science classes and probably rock/metal and maybe techno clubs, if you're into that stuff.

Keyslost is right, the match is less likely to happen naturally, that's why you need to force it. You remind me of a girl in my class. She has a personality close to yours, an even if she wasn't a ten, I was obsessed by her, but kept my mouth shut for months. It was her who had to say the first words, and it was after thar I finally could speak freely to her.
Well, to sum up, one of the 2 has to make the tremendous effort of saying the first words, even if they are meaningless, and don't expect the antisocial guy in front of you to do it just because he's a man.

you're not pathetic

[ForevahAlone]

Thanks guys. I'm just hiding behind my womanhood. Lol. I'm terrified of rejection. I know that I can't just sit around waiting for male attention though.

Being a woman is an asset. You have 92% less chances to get rejected when you talk to someone, even if you say ********.

Nerdy, antisocial and smart guys are likey not going to be the ones to initiate the first conversation because they're - antisocial - and likely afraid of rejection just like you. Don't be afraid to start the first conversation with a guy you're interested in. I initiated it, and 4 years later 'nerdy, antisocial & smart guy' and I are still happily together. Good luck!

[ForevahAlone]

Ugh. I wish it were easier to approach guys. I'm soooooo painfully awkward. I literally cringe when I think of my past interactions with guys.

[Symbolic]

Originally Posted by NewLyfeForReal

Nerdy, antisocial and smart guys are likey not going to be the ones to initiate the first conversation because they're - antisocial - and likely afraid of rejection just like you. Don't be afraid to start the first conversation with a guy you're interested in. I initiated it, and 4 years later 'nerdy, antisocial & smart guy' and I are still happily together. Good luck!

This is it exactly. I was nerdy antisocial smart guy, but was so terrified of rejection I wouldn't approach any girls. It wasn't until I forced myself out of my comfort zone and *gasp* talked to girls that things started to click in place.

The approach I used was to talk to girls with the purpose of feeling comfortable talking to girls. No romantic ideas, just talk like normal people. I learned pretty quickly girls aren't that scary (usually), which gave me more confidence to try being a little flirty with ones I was interested in, and when it was reciprocated things went from there.