[Fuzzybear]

for the past few weeks I've been flooded by memories of my years "with" the Mean T (IRL) ... (more than usual

To begin with, he was very "competent" and ethical... And obeyed the guidelines of First Do No Harm and Respect the Patient.

One question he asked me early on was "what are your strengths and not so strengths"

one of my "strengths" I listed was "I'm a good "judge" of character"

Wrong Wrong Wrong

you (partially) trusted the Wrong Person

stupid little bear

[Fizzyo]

Ouch, a painful time, but you're NOT a stupid bear. He was wrong, it was NOT YOUR FAULT. You're a warm and caring bear. Stinking rotten fish heads to him! I hope you can find some peace soon. And the care you deserve.

[winter4me]

You are The Best Bear!!!!! We can be a good judge of character, and still be wrong now and then...especially when the deceiver is not ill at ease with their own deception. ((((((((((((((((((((((smart&sensitive))))))))))))))))))))))))

[Frankbtl]

Hi Fuzzy, it wasn't your failure in trusting him, it was his failure in letting you down and abusing that trust!!!
He was a T, he was supposed to be there to help you, to be understanding and supportive, right??!! So nothing wrong at all with expecting that, or with expecting that what he was doing was in your best interests.
So please, don't put any blame in yourself. Any blame lies entirely with him!!
And time to focus on your healing from this, I know it seriously isn't easy but.........you do deserve to be "free" of him
Alison
P.S. If you want a whole long list of your strengths/good qualities you only have to be checking in with us for that, right??!!

[SeekerOfLife]

Hi Fuzzy. I think I know how you feel. I am hard on myself when I slip up, too. HE bears more of the responsibility in this than you do. I don't let myself get angry when it is appropriate. He is the faulty one because he is trained to do better. Throw the mess back on him. Be angry at him. We think you are a fabulous dandy bear.

[TheOriginalMe]

You didn't fail, you were let down. There is a big difference.
Fizzyo beat me to it but Stinking Rotten Fisheads to the lot of them. That is still the best insult I've ever heard, I'm so glad you came up with it, I smile when I think about it and anyone who can make me smile is doing a lot right.

[RessurectMe]

Hey, I'm relatively new here and have not read about your "Mean T" before, but this thread struck a chord with me.

I'm in really rough shape now for a number of reasons. But I believe this could have been avoided if not for the influence of a particular T who was, from the first visit: judgmental, sarcastic, interrupting, eye-rolling, self-absorbed...I could go on, but I think you get the picture.

I am still so mad at him and myself for trusting him. The ironic thing is that I actually enrolled in a different HMO and changed my primary care physician in order to meet with this particular T, based only on a simple web bio/profile.

I ask for references for an auto mechanic or a lawyer, you'd think I would do the same for something so much more important.

[Born2Fly71]

You are not a stupid little bear! There have been times when you sent a hug and a smile to me when I was down. You are loved and needed!

[waterknob1234]

You are not a stupid little bear. It sounds as though this T let you down. These people are supposed to help us, not cause us more pain. We all have enough pain as it is. You are the best most lovable bear in the world.

((((((((((((((Fuzzybear)))))))))))))))

[Angelique67]

(((((((Fuzzy)))))))