[crippler5511]

I've been married since 2001. It's not been good for several years now but I stay for my 2 kids. I almost left a couple of years ago, but my parents took her side because they were scared it would effect them seeing my kids. I knew then that im alone. My own parents chose Her over me.
Had another typical back and forth and decided I'm done. I want a divorce. spent the day with my kiDs and it felt like I was saying goodbye. They are in bed, im up alone feeling lost. I'm tired, lost, and alone

[secretgalaxy]

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I hope you can find something that works for the both you and your SO and your kids. Maybe you can talk to your parents privately and explain to them how much this relationship is affecting you.

[RessurectMe]

That sounds brutal crippler5511...so sorry you are going through this.

Are you 100% sure you want a divorce?

Can you not share custody of the kids if you do?

[Fuzzybear]

[Fizzyo]

[FMLAMAN]

Divorce is Hell if you have children. Have you gotten any advice from some close trusted buddies of yours? I know they were good support for me during my awful Divorce. Also... just because you file for divorce doesn't mean you lose your kids and in fact can most often get 50% joint custody. Used to be the Woman almost always got full custody, but these days the courts actually prefer 50/50 split parental time.

Your Parents will not lose any visitation right to see your kids after divorce so they should not be in fear of that. Then again, if you really think your wife still loves you and by some way you have any love left for her then there are ways to bring that love back.

They say Marriage is forever, but not true. Divorce is forever. Either way, you have to be happy to make your kids happy and if only divorce will do that for you then staying Married is gonna be rough.

Try to save your Marriage, but if you can't then do your research first before you act. Just 1 mistake prior to divorce can ruin a fair split between you and your wife and leave you on the side line missing your kids and your financial ability to support yourself.

[KC_neuro]

Have you taken steps to repair your relationship? I do not condone staying together for the kids (based on my child hood experience). Perhaps you two can come to an agreement where you can have equal custody. I have been thinking about my own marriage a lot lately and it scares the hell out of me when I think about divorce. I am very sorry you are going thru this.

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[Jack of Tears]

Is there some reason you won't be able to share custody of the children if you get a divorce? Do not make the mistake of staying married for the sake of the children, trust me, I grew up in a bad marriage and prayed every day my parents would get a divorce; it was hell on me. Kids aren't blind and growing up in a loveless household is painful for them as well; don't let that hold you back.

As for your parents, they are being selfish - this isn't about them and whether they manage to keep seeing the children or not (and why wouldn't they?) this is your life and you have to do what is best for yourself. The worst thing you can do is let this destroy you and take your children's father away from them for good.

Be strong, there is a better, freer future ahead.