I really need help.

Hi, im new.

So, I guess I should start off by saying a little about myself?
Im 27, and I have asperger's syndrome. I was diagnosed at about 11 years old and saw a doctor every now and again till about 14/15.

I had friends, quite a few but over the years we just stopped talking and I haven't really left the house (only for work) in about 5 years. I just don't any friends anymore.

I've never been on a date or had a boyfriend. But last week I had a date with a guy. My confidence has grown so much this past year, last year I wouldn't have even gone on a date but I felt like my asperger's syndrome got the best of me. My social skills were pretty bad.

Its the only thing that I suffer with, social communication.

We havent talked since the date and I just think me being quite has put him off me. And it just got me thinking, have I wasnted my life? I feel like I haven't done much with my life. Have I waited too long to meet guys that when I do, am I going to be too shy to even talk to them?

I don't think its a boyfriend I need, I just need a friend, someone I can hang out with.

I've pretty much cried 3 times a day for the past week. I haven't eaten much, I only eat because if I don't I feel faint. When I use to be depresses I would over eat....but this time it just feels worse.

I think the date might have triggered something?

Have you tried reaching out to him? If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't worry about what he thinks of you. Guys like all kinds of girls so you'll one day meet your match. It's cool to be shy! Go, girl! Everything is going to work out just fine.

I have Asperger's also have struggled with (and still do somewhat) with social skills. I found a book that was really easy to read and understand and was also very informative. The book is 'Social Thinking At Work: Why Should I Care? by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Cooke. It also covers social situations besides work.
It might help you feel more confident and comfortable in social situations.

It may be that he doesn't want to rush you and is waiting for you to send a text or something. I hope you enjoyed the date, it was good experience for you and there will be someone who loves you for who you are. Keep socialising and you will get even more confident. Well done strong and brave woman. Many other people like you wouldn't have taken the chance. Keep strong.

No you have not wasted your life. No you haven't waited too long. Keep going with the improvement you have made. I am male. I would be friends with someone such as you. And if you asked me on a date I would say yes.

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