[ProudlyPersevering]

I am so confused and need some insight. Have a friend that has depression and we had dated for a while until they struggled and said they needed space. Since then they had started texting again and we have hung out some too like the early days of dating again, it was cool. I wanted to talk to them a few weeks ago about the depression and some stuff they said when they wanted the space but there was no conversation, they say they just can't talk about it now because of the depression.
I just don't know what to do. I care so much but am afraid to continue without knowing if what they said was true or not. I have feelings I need to address and it seems like the best we can do to talk about anything real deep is in text. I really feel conflicted today but it may be other life stress causing it. I get in depression the have a hard time and probably can't say what they feel but if it starting to feel one sided. I know they cannot help it but right now I do not know what to do to to still be supportive. Anyone dealt with this? I am just confused!

[puzzclar]

I had one relationship with a guy that didn't go well..... he wanted sui and I had to support him in getting him help but he wasn't willing to tell or talk about it afterwords.. It was very hard, I had to get out of that relationship, before we both did something stupid. But that was my experience. It all depends on if other person is wanting to talk about it, just don't push them, it does help you but it doesn't help them.

[Fizzyo]

Sorry it's so hard for you, you sound like a kind and caring person. Relationships are very hard if they are not two way, you also need to take care of yourself. I really hope you find a way forward in this situation, best of luck

[Fizzyo]

You're not forgotten Be kind to yourself you deserve it.

[Fuzzybear]

[ProudlyPersevering]

Thank you for all the kind words and hugs, it is tough. I decided to send an email with how I felt, how important they are to me and some of my deepest feelings. That was about a week ago and I just don't know. They were quiet the day after I sent it so I thought maybe I made a mistake and then there has been alot of talking/texting after that but never mentioned it. I feel like I opened up and put myself out there and it is scary especially when I feel ignored. I guess I just needed to know it was ok to tell them all those things, maybe the texting like we used to means it is.
I understand the the depression impact how they think and feeling anything is tough and I just wanted them to know I care but I do not know what else to do. I just feel confused.

[Fizzyo]

Sounds like you made a positive and courageous move. Maybe you're right about the texting.

[ProudlyPersevering]

Fizzyo thank you. I really do not know what else to do and it is so hard when it feels like I am ignored. I get that it is hard when people suffer but is it that or that I mean nothing. Just feeling like I need a break which makes me sad.

[Fizzyo]

Originally Posted by ProudlyPersevering

Fizzyo thank you. I really do not know what else to do and it is so hard when it feels like I am ignored. I get that it is hard when people suffer but is it that or that I mean nothing. Just feeling like I need a break which makes me sad.

it's so hard ProudlyPersevering, it truly is. Sadly, at the end of the day it's your decision whether this relationship is good for you, or harming you. If it is more hurtful than benefit, the decision is whether you should stay that close. In the long term, you're not going to help them if the relationship has worn you down so far that you get ill too. It's such a hard position to be in and I really feel for you, but you are the only person who knows what is right for you. I can't advise you only send all the care and hugs I can. You at the end of the day are a good and precious person. Be kind to yourself too.

[ProudlyPersevering]

Thanks for the advice Fizzyo! I know it is my decision and agree with you saying if it hurts me more then benefits then I need to let go. I was asking in hopes of gaining some insight from the otherside. It is difficult to know what helps or what hurts.

For my last week was difficult and I really needed some support. I didn't get any but I guess I never really asked either and now I am more confused about what to do.

Thanks again, you reminded me to look at it from my side and take care of myself.