Exhausted and Worthless

I feel so worthless. I try to be helpful to people I know but they just blow me off or even ignore it which shows I am not even worth listening to. A few other people just take and take with a short thanks or nothing. I am not helpful to get something back, it is who I am but there comes a time that it seems one way and it hurts. I have never had many friends and wonder if the people in my life are friends or I am just useful. I am so sad and feel so empty. I just want it to be better. Maybe I should not even try to make friends or help. I just feel so tired and really worthless right now.

Hi ProudlyPersevering. I understand the feeling. Sometimes it just feels like people use you and take advantage of you. Friendships should not be one sided. It sounds to me like people want you to do something for them all the time but they don't want to give back.

By the way, you may be exhausted from doing too much, but you are not worthless. Take a rest break.

Wow. That sounds a lot like me. I'm so sorry. I don't know your situation, but in mine, a few of the people I try to care for do actually fully accept my limitations, and if anything want me to stop trying to protect them, so they they can protect me. Maybe that's similar for you. Now, there are other people who truly do just try to keep taxing me without giving much back. But there are a few, a couple, who want me to be comfortable resting on them while I need them. If that's where you are in any relationship, I urge you to let yourself relax with those people. And well, if it's not, then it urge you to take time for yourself as much as possible. PC can help.
You are not worthless. You can't see that now, but you are not worthless.

Thank you for the nice words. There really isn't anyone who would do that. I ended a really bad marriage years ago and never learned to trust people. I wonder if I didn't help if I would even be missed. Just feel so empty, exhausted, and worthless that I know I don't matter.

Do you work?

Hi Proudly,

Ever try therapy?

- vital

Tauren - I do but it is just paperwork in an office so little interaction.

Vital- I have but not for a while. Maybe it is time to try again.

It still is the same. I really so no end in site.

You have such an amazing username - something inside of you inspired you to choose so empowering a handle. Something inside you, on some level, is well and biding it's time until you can bring it to the forefront. You just have to keep proudly persevering until you get it to show. But, it's definitely in there.

I know that there are times - days - when you just feel like "Why the hell bother?" But you are NOT worthless. And you are among many who totally understand your cares and woes.

When it's gets to be too much, check in with yourself. Are you hydrated? Hungry? Well-rested? Have you been inside for too long and need to go out and let the sun warm your face? Maybe you need to watch a funny show or movie? Call an understanding person in your life? Listen to music that moves you in a positive way?

A lot of times you have to change the "scene" in some form or fashion before you can change the emotion.

I hope you feel better soon. ((((((proudly persevering)))))

I was losing hope myself, but I then found something that's a huge help. Here is my best stuff:

http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB...0164151576.pdf

http://forums.psychcentral.com/4262681-post105.html

- vital

Thank you for the nice words Lavendersage. When I chose the name I thought I was persevering, not so much now. I try to do that with the "scene" and some days it works. There have been many that not but I supose it is one day at a time.

Whenever I have moments or periods of "rallying" I think of it as my essential, pure,
self trying to rise above all the murky, mucky quagmire of my mental/emotional issues to show it's innocent face, get some sun to warm it, and breathe out from under, for a time, the load of CRAP it's usually buried (practically smothered) beneath. Because I think everyone starts out as basically good, not evil.

I know sometimes, oftentimes, the muck is too thick and it's gravitational pull so strong that it subsumes and covers over that purity we each have.

You just have to keep persevering, as you say "one day at a time"..sometimes one minute at a time.

For those moments, when I feel "well", good, positive, and (gasp) sometimes at peace are worth the effort.

hi Proudly Persevering.

We are all as worthy as anyone else on this planet. We all are good at most things are not so good at a few others. But you have great perseverance which is a quality, many do not possess. And that is the one quality that brings success in the end. I remember something that Mother Teresa said about ungraceful recipients of help. She said keep on helping people any way, because in a sense you are not doing it for them but for God, who will reward you. I just hope and pray that the future will bring you true friends to really appreciate what you do for them. Take care. Have a really great day. God bless and best wishes from your friend Francis