[davie08]

Okay so I find myself in general much more depressed on weekends. The reason is that during the week I go to school and I'm socializing with people. On weekends I'm stuck in my house and don't want to go out, because either I have to study, or I just don't want to do anything that my "friends" want to do.

I know that my depression kicks in whenever I am alone for an extended period of time, but it also kicks in on weekends because I feel like I should be out having fun. On Saturdays I volunteer at the hospital for a few hours and socialize with patients for a lot of that, but still by Saturday evening I'm depressed a lot of the time. Friday nights it's not so bad and Sunday it isn't so bad either because on Sunday I feel like most people are staying in and relaxing with work or school coming the next day.

I'm just wondering if anyone has any tips for me on these Saturday evenings, because it honestly gets so bad that I start obsessing way more over everything, including my underlining issue of body dysmorphic disorder. There's a girl I like and were planing on going out, but on the weekends if say she was busy. I am really afraid what I might say to her when I'm feeling so lonely. When I am that lonely I get really irritable and may say something I regret.

My last relationship ended with me relying to much on my ex for everything, because I was only hanging out with her. Things are a bit different now, seeing that my body dysmorphic disorder is much better than it was at that time. Still though I'm staying pretty isolated, so I can imagine myself relying on this new girl a lot for my social needs. She is also more understanding of my issue, as she has dealt with her own image issues.

I actually feel better typing this out. So maybe ranting on here every Saturday evening can be one thing that I can do haha.

Thanks in advance for any advice!

[Sam2]

If you are living alone, weekends can be hard. There is too much time to think and reflect on your life. The house seems to quiet and that adds to the feeling of depression.

Don't let your fears of what you might say keep you from going with this girl. If she knows that you have a problem already, then you won't feel as though you have a secret to keep. You said she had a similar problem, so she may be just as afraid of saying something as you are. There is no law that says you have to become involved seriously right away. If its right, then your relationship will improve. If not, she may just be a good friend.

You don't say whether or not you are seeing a therapist. These days, people know enough of the mental illness terms that the fact that you know what you have doesn't mean you see someone for it. If you don't have a therapist, you might want to consider it. Its not the physical things that are truly bothering you, but rather something deeper in your emotions. Its just easier for your mind to think that its your body that isn't right. To get rid of it, you need to find out what is really bothering you.

Give this girl a try next saturday. she may surprise you and want to go somewhere. The worst she can do is say no. At best, it could make your life better.

Sam2

[Daeva]

I have the same problem! I'm in college and school for me all week is a savior, because it forces me out of the house and out of my mind, I may still be depressed but it's not as bad as it is on the weekends where I have nothing to do but sit there by myself in my misery. I get so lonely but I want to be left alone.

I find forcing yourself to read, write, hobby stuff like that. Or even when I come on here I try to talk to others, like I'll go through the forums and find posts that have been ignored and comment on them so that other person knows someone is listening, it distracts me.

I hope you find something that helps! If you need to talk PM me and I'll give you my email.

[lostfeeling25]

I feel similar to the way you do. I don't really do much on weekends. Saturdays are hardest for me. Most of my friends that I used to spend time with are either married now or have children, I'm the only single one left. I'm not the type to go out and sit at a bar by myself on a Saturday. I may go out on errands or shopping or something, but by night time I'm bored and lonely. It's depressing. During the week it isn't as bad because I work during the day and by the time I'm home I'm ready to just relax and do nothing. But weekends drag on with nothing to do.

[davie08]

I've come up with a plan for myself that has given me some excitement. There is a crossfit gym where I am and they have a gymnastics program that I'm likely going to join. Hopefully this can fill some time on weekends and maybe lead to some more friends. I spent a lot of time trying to find something that could always be there for me, because you can't always trust other people to be there. But with a gym unless it closes it should be there lol.

[Daeva]

I'm glad you found something!

[indpharexp]

please meet your close friend on weekends plan a trip do something exciting

i can't get out, so naturally weekends are harder for me.

but what i tend to do is think about others in my situation at the time. no way can i be the only person- so i think of like others (maybe like the elderly) who can't get out as much, and it makes me feel better.

[davie08]

Thanks for all the input. I agree Sanity there's always someone who has it worse.

[pauly]

I'm so glad I found this forum on weekend depression. I thought I was the only one, like something was wrong with me. So I Google this problem out of curiosity to see if others shared my problem. I was so relieved to read that I wasn't alone. I'm new to this forum, & I thank everyone for sharing. I feel less alone now.