Why can't I connect

Why is it so hard to connect with people? Why do I seek to have sui thoughts? Why can't I be interested in what others do? I guess I'm just questioning everything in life. Like why even go to work!? Yet I'm at work and all I want to do is just scream! Yet I can't!!!! Why is making connections so hard? Why do I not know what to talk about it were to start? I hope this makes sense.

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Yes this makes sense to me. Meds dulling all those strong thoughts and emotions for me at the moment. Minefulness can help me sometimes too. Take care.

((((((((( puzzclar )))))))))))

There are just some days it doesn't feel right to get out of bed. Those are the days when it seems that everything comes at you. I find most of my problems is when i think about myself too much that i become self absorbed, then i don't see others around me that need as much as i do. When i can think less about myself and more about others i find my focus clears us and the anxiety tends to diminish. I am not thinking about problems all the time or projected sceneros in my head. When i just let go things naturally just flow for me and fall into place. I go through this when i feel out of sorts with others, not knowing how to communicate. I hope this helps. tc

Hi puzzclar,

People are very hard to deal with when you're depressed, I find. They are a huge source of stress that you can't control and, also, when you're depressed people sense that something is wrong and will be weird around you or avoid you. When I was depressed, it used to be that I found being with people very stressful, even if they were good friends or family.

I think that the best strategy for this is to find a way to feel better yourself first. If you can manage that, dealing with people becomes so much easier and more pleasant.

-vital

Hi there,
I struggle with connecting, relating, and feeling like I want to be around people and take interest in them-especially close family and friends. I isolate myself a LOT, although I know it's unhelpful-people need people. I tried to search the reasons for my feeling like I want to be isolated, and I agree with omegalamed that it's at least partly a preoccupation with the self. I admitted to myself I desperately need peoples' help in all aspects of my life regardless of how uninterested I feel, I can do nothing alone meaning i cannot depend solely on myself, and I decided that despite my trust issues, depression, and self absorption, I will take an interest in others. Others have shown me so much kindness all my life. That is what is keeping me going lately, the fact that others need me to be stronger than I think I am. Maybe you should explore your thoughts on how much we all need each other in life. IF you do feel shame about it like me, it could be a helpful motivator..it is for me. don't give up because life is precious. One main thing that stops me from opening up to others and being at ease is my fear of saying something I will regret later. But I, and they, will need to accept me how I am. You and I deserve to be happy while communicating and socializing with others. It can be very very rewarding, like it once was. I hope we can both connect more with people.