[NeedhelpinNY]

Lately, I have noticed that I am quick to anger. I nearly got into a physical confrontation with a stranger yesterday, but luckily I didn't. I am having a very difficult time with work. My business is not doing well and almost all of my savings are gone. I have spent alot of time at home taking care of my 14 month old daughter since she was born and my business and energy for my business has suffered. My wife is also in a stressful job and I have spent years trying to deal with her emotions about her job - it feels like every day is consumed with her issues regarding her job. Plus I am trying to find a job and have had no luck. I feel overwhelmed and angry at everything and everyone (except my daughter) because I have done what I was supposed to do in life and I find myself broke, in a relationship that is often unfulfilling and lacking the love and support I want, running a failing business, and unable to get a job. I wish to god I just cry, but I can't. The tears won't come. Yes, I have thought of ending my life but I am choosing to try to find help and perspective because I love my daughter so much and I don't want her to be without her father. But the man I am now is not the man I thought I was and always wanted to be. My wife has become the focus of so much of my anger because everything is about her stupid job and the stress it causes her. So sick of it. I am sad and angry. But need to change things. Being honest here helps.

[Fizzyo]

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[lavendersage]

I'm so sorry that you're going through all these frustrating, demoralizing, upsetting feelings. I know, all too well, that feeling of, "Seriously? This is my life? This is as "good as it's gotten?"

Glad you found PC. It's a supportive place to share filled with many caring, sensitive, and kind people. Throw in dark chocolate with sea salt and you'd NEVER get me off here.

Have you thought about therapy? Maybe just for yourself to start and then, perhaps, counseling for you and your wife?

It's important that you BOTH have the ability to feel safe in sharing your cares and woes with each other (and hopefully, your joys!). Maybe your wife's insurance would cover the cost?

I'm sorry your business isn't going as well as you'd like.

[mountainstream]

[vital]

Originally Posted by NeedhelpinNY

Lately, I have noticed that I am quick to anger. I nearly got into a physical confrontation with a stranger yesterday, but luckily I didn't. I am having a very difficult time with work....So sick of it. I am sad and angry. But need to change things. Being honest here helps.

Hi Needhelp,

Not everyone knows this, but being angry all the time is often a part of depression. It's also part of a potential downward spiral where negative things happen to you because others sense your anger. I know exactly what this feels like, too, by the way. These notes might be of help to you http://egg.bu.edu/~youssef/SNAP_CLUB/BA.pdf explaining what's going on and what to do about it. - vital

[EnglishDave]

I agree with Lavendersage, Therapy has to be looked at as an option. For your own Mental Health, your business, your marriage and for your daughter these issues should be dealt with on a personal and family level.

You have done the hard part, you have admitted here how this situation has driven you to Depression and anger - near violence with a stranger. Now is the time to expand on that and work to resolve this together in a safe environment. That would be your first step to healing.

I am sorry about your business and work situation, but with the other issues cleared from your mind maybe your Professional life will take an upturn.

Dave.

[Fuzzybear]

[Serzen]

As suggested here, therapy is a good option.

Also doing something that allows you to channel all that energy in a positive, healthy way, like a sport, writing, painting, etc. But maybe when you're able to clear your head a bit first.