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#1
Dec 14, 2015, 02:36 PM
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Edit: I think this goes without saying, but just to be clear, some of these songs could be triggers.
Just curious. Music can work wonders sometimes. For anxiety or insomnia I'll try Pachelbel's Canon in D, stuff like that. But depression requires something else altogether. I'm probably not alone in this, but shamelessly cheery music just makes me feel worse. What makes me feel better, or at least more okay with feeling bad, are the melancholy songs. "Wild Horses" by the Rolling Stones. "Helpless" by Neil Young. "Wish You Were Here" by Pink Floyd. "Ain't No Sunshine" by Bill Withers. "Misty Blue", by various artists. Sometimes it feels good to see what beauty people have created from their pain. One song I keep listening to over and over lately is "Ain't No Reason" by Brett Dennen. Soulful, sad, and the video is just heartbreaking, and so real. I recommend it if you feel like you need a good cry, but not otherwise, because no matter how many times I watch it I can't get through it without shedding a tear. Another amazing song if you want to cry is Johnny Cash's cover of "Hurt" by NIN. Absolutely amazing. It'll make you sad, but at the same time, I always feel like I could never feel as much pain as he conveys in this song, looking back on his life. "Sound of Silence" and "The Boxer" by Simon and Garfunkel I like to sing along to when I'm blue. And if you think Elton John and "sad", you'd probably think of "Candle in the Wind", but there's another song of his that isn't well known that I think is even sadder. It's called "The Last Song". Sounds sad already right? Well if you or anyone you loved have been diagnosed with HIV, don't listen. It's about a man dying of AIDS, who receives a surprise visit from his father who disowned him because of his lifestyle. "I guess I misjudged love/Between a father and his son" is a heartbreaking line. I first heard this song at the end of And The Band Played On, a docu-drama about the early days of AIDS in America, and how most people were inclined to ignore it because it was seen as a "gay problem." Sad movie as it is (with a superstar cast including Steve Martin, Alan Alda, and Phil Collins), but the montage at the end, set to this song, got me bawling. But every once in a while I get really really angsty and have to turn to something stronger. "Scars" by Papa Roach seems to be the story of my life, and songs like "I Don't Care" by Apocalyptica (electric cellos are amazing) give me a sort of savage pleasure in my pain. What about you guys? Last edited by SoScorpio; Dec 14, 2015 at 02:58 PM. |
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Dec 14, 2015, 03:43 PM
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Hello SoScorpio: Well... one sort-of newer song I like, because I think it describes me, is: "Nobody Knows Me at All" by The Weepies. But beyond that, very recently, I've begun to take an interest in old-time gospel... which is really weird because I'm not a religious person. But this music has a depth of feeling for me that I just don't find anywhere else. A couple of examples would be: "I am a Poor Pilgrim of Sorrow" & "Talk About Suffering" Strangely enough I also like chant & I frequently listen to chant videos on YouTube when I'm replying to posts here on PC.
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Dec 14, 2015, 04:11 PM
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I have a play list with songs that I like to listen to when I am feeling super down. Breathe me by Sia and beautiful by Eminem are two on that list. But if I am just feeling super down, I put on my alternative stations on Pandora. I feel like these have so much feeling. And I like stuff that I can relate too. I am much like you in the way that I do not like cheery music when I feel super down.
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Dec 14, 2015, 04:15 PM
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That's cool. I actually have started listening to old-school soul music lately. Some of that is inspired by gospel for sure. That's more for my normal days though. It's soothing, but today I think would just add to my "blah" feeling.
Incidentally, watching the music video for "Scars" backfired today. If I'd just listened and not watched I would have been fine. But the video shows the lead singer trying to help his girlfriend, who clearly has a drinking problem. She just gets mad, even without hearing her words you can tell she's saying things like "It's not a big deal" and "You just don't understand." He dumps all the alcohol in the house down the drain, and the next morning as she's leaving, she knocks over a candle and burns his house down. Before having seen the video, I always identified with this song because I do feel like my weakness is caring too much, and that I'm always having to harden my heart and melt it again. But watching the video today makes me think that my boyfriend would identify with the lead singer in the video, because he's always trying to help me with my problems but I don't usually take his advice because I don't think he understands what it's like to have depression and anxiety and OCPD. But looking at it from his perspective, I worry that one day he'll just leave, if he feels he can't get through to me... |
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Dec 15, 2015, 04:17 AM
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When I was younger I'd always listen to the heaviest music I could find -- partly because it seemed to suit my mood, and partly because my mind would eventually go blank. Atmospheric black metal was my go-to depression music for a long time, along with some depressive black metal. But I think I got desensitized to it or something. I dunno; it doesn't work so well anymore. Maybe I really am "growing out of it" or whatever.
These days, mostly Pop or J-Pop songs about love, or love lost. I tend to think that my depression largely stems from a really deep loneliness and an unhealthy obsession with romance and "true love" combined with the impossibility of me ever actually finding it. My recent favorite is "Alone Again" by Yuna Ito. I guess it won't mean much if you don't understand Japanese... But it's really powerful to me. Some nights I just sit here and listen to it on repeat.
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Dec 15, 2015, 09:25 AM
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I listen to jazz when I'm at my worst. I used to listen to New Age but it was actually contributing to the depression
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Dec 15, 2015, 07:13 PM
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I listen to a lot of Nirvana and Alice in Chains.
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Dec 15, 2015, 08:05 PM
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I tend to listen to more like easy listening music. I like all kinds of music, but when I'm feeling in a funk, I tend to take it easy with the music. It's more like easy "techno" music I would listen to when I'm depressed and anxious.
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Dec 16, 2015, 01:08 AM
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Dec 17, 2015, 12:02 AM
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I have to add that when I feel depressed, I tend to listen to music from the past; like in the 70s to 90s. It seemed like they were better times for me than now for various reasons. I know that I shouldn't live in the past, but listening to music from the past lifts me up.
When I feel better, I tend to listen to more upbeat music, or rock-n-roll. |
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Dec 17, 2015, 12:15 AM
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Dec 17, 2015, 02:24 AM
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I posted this in another forum, but since this thread is very similar to that one, here are the songs I commiserate with.
I'm putting the trigger tags around them because I can not recommend listening to them while in a certain mood as these songs may exacerbate and worsen those feelings.
Possible trigger:
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Dec 17, 2015, 08:46 AM
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Blue Osyter Cult's "Don't fear the reaper"
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Dec 17, 2015, 10:01 AM
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I tend to listen to Christian Rock or Classic Rock. The Christian rock lets me know that I'm not alone in this fight, and the classic rock inspires me to fight harder. They are a lethal combination to my depression....
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Dec 17, 2015, 11:50 AM
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