Depression comparing yourself to others.

Any advice on how to stop this? Its making everything worse. I have 3 friends and they all have amazing careers, lots of friends, relationships, and ect. I just feel like I am far behind and not as good. Which I know is subjective but I cant stop doing it. Ugh.

Well there's this thing called the Deserata.
It says Don't compare yourself to others as there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

I have this problem too. I never used to be like this and used to wish everyone the best. Since my life started going wrong with depression my career went off the rails, I got no house, car, no friends, no money. All my peers have it all now. Earning big salaries, living in posh houses and getting on in life. I feel envious but also ashamed at how I have failed in life. I don't know if there is any way of getting around how this comparison hits you in the gut. I know that no pill can ever make it better. I've tried all the meds.

I guess you just have to live your life for you. Like that Sammy Davis jr song 'I've gotta be me'. Try to learn to love yourself which should raise your self esteem and give you ability to move forward with your own life. This is my plan anyway.

My friends are all in different situations, some good and some not so good. It sounds extremely selfish but I really don't think about what they've got because all I think about is how bad I feel and how I can get through the day. People have things going on in their lives and I forget to even ask how they're doing because I'm trying to get through the day. It does make me feel very selfish but that's how I get through the day.

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I hear you. I do this a lot too and it's a hard habit to break. A destructive one, at that! It's better to compare yourself with... yourself. Like see all the ways you have grown in your life. It's hard not looking at other people the same age who seem to have it all together. But, we never know what they might be struggling with that we can't see on the outside.

Comparison is the root of all inferiority. I forget where I heard that quote but it makes sense.

Also, big salary + big house does not necessarily mean a better life, despite how often American culture tells us it does. I've known a lot of people who are very happy despite being just above the poverty line, or very dissatisfied (and usually trying to hide that fact) despite making six figures. I myself have fallen into both of those categories at different times in my life.

the grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence

i do this like, all the time- and i really hate it.

it just adds to how bad i all ready feel.

i'm 1 of those people who can't think of anything i've got which is any good... i remember once someone asking me what was the best part of 2015, and my response was- oh, the best part of 2015.. 2015 sucked.

and it wasn't just the depression talking- their's nothing i've done in the last few years of any value at all

and i get so annoyed when i think about all the people younger than me, or in almost the same situation, who have made a really good life for themselves.

i can't begin to express how frustrating it is