[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

What is it that (you think) happens which makes other people suddenly find it within them to care-and even love- once another person dies, but they could never find it within themselves to care - much less to love - while the person was alive? I think sometimes, if one was able to die just for a short time and then "awaken", it may just help many others to realize how much they care and give them insight on how to show they care...or give care toward another.

What is your opinion?

[guiltier65]

I think that sometimes we get lost in our own stuff and forget that other people exist or have issues. so we forget how to reach out until it is too late. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because of our choices to isolate or give in to the anxiety/pain/whatever. I lost a friend this week to brain cancer and i can honestly say I wish that I'd known her better. everyone is saying what an incredible person she was, but i don't know, because I was too lost in my own mind to reach out to her.

[lavendersage]

A T once told me that it's sometimes easier to love people in death rather than in life because, in death, any of the stressors, fissures or issues that may have been present between you and them are nullified: it's just "you" and "them" as people, with a shared history and the relationship.

Love can be easier then.

It made sense to me.

because 'absence makes the heart grow fonder'

because we take the people we love most for granted...

we don't like to think about the fact that they may die... so we act as if that's not a possibility and delude ourselves into thinking that person will always be there - until they're not.

just my take on the matter.

[Crypts_Of_The_Mind]

Do any of you think people should take time for others in their lives while those people are alive - or are the reasons for why they did not or could not enough?

Do you think "well, I have too much to do today to spend time with her" a good reason when seen in the overall scheme of things?

Here is something to consider as you think on that (even if you don't like the music, listen to the words please):

I'd done alot of things different: