[black-roses]

Hello, everyone I started to notice a behaviour I only do when I talk to guys about my emotions are anything deep I notice I apologize everytime I talk about my feelings to them like I am annoying them or being a burden. I have only noticed now that I apologize so much for every attempt I make at becoming closer or being emotional to them almost like I have to explain myself to them. I have no idea why I do this, I only just started noticing it now that when a guy asks about my sister i tell them that they are having a hard time but she is not the self pity type. Why do I do this why do I apologize for telling guys my feelings and how my day was... I never apologized to girls I don't feel ashamed for telling them how I feel so why would I feel so ashamed and cut up inside telling guys how I feel? What am I so ashamed and cut up about?

[rachel_]

Maybe because we're taught that men don't like to talk about emotions as much as women? We're told that men deal in the concrete, while women are more emotional, which may or may not be true. I've met men that talk about their emotions and also women who avoid discussions like that as though it's the plague.

Now that you've noticed, the behavior, maybe if you feel the need, say something like "I hope you don't mind me talking about x", and then don't say anything more apologetic.

You might try it and see whether the suggestion is of any value to you. Take care

[Fizzyo]

The way many men are brought up they may feel less comfortable with emotional expression. You may unconsciously be picking up on this which in turn makes you feel uncomfortable and like you need to apologise.

If they ask, they may well be interested, so it's ok to tell them. As rachel says, now you have noticed your behaviour, maybe you could rehearse ways to reply and ways to avoid over apologising, plan what to say and practising in front of the mirror can make it easier to say things the way you would prefer to have said them.

I hope the rambling makes sense.

Good luck.

[black-roses]

It also feels like I am hiding a lot of myself from them by not being able to be as emotional as I would be with women. My personality is I am a highly expressive emotional person it kind of sucks that I feel I have to hide my emotions and my creative expression. I see the world in very emotional and artistic terms if you know what I mean.

[elevatedsoul]

im a guy... emotional bluntness is something to be expected it seems... be tough, you are the hunter, the mind says... but im really emotional too... i just dont get to talk to anyone because i have to be someone else all the time...
you dont have to apologize... if they make you feel uncomfortable then as a guy i would just avoid talking about that with taht person...
but i avoid alot of things and im not good with communicating or relationships so i cant give good advice...