I used to have a good life. And I didn’t even realise it. I had a long term relationship, we had a house together and pets. I had a good job complete with the opportunity of getting qualified. I had money.

Now I’m single, I had to move back home with my parents, I couldn’t keep up with my studies and ended up leaving my job. My savings have run out and I’m at my overdraft limit.

And it’s all my fault. I messed up my life. I could have made changes but I ignored what everyone was saying to me and did it my way.

I’ve always kinda of known this but I think I have been in such a fog for so long it didn’t really sink in properly. I’m out of that fog now and can see things clearly. And it sucks. I don’t even know where to begin to try and pick up the pieces of my life. It seems unachievable.

[Skeezyks]

Hello HalloweenSkye: Well... for the Skeezyks it simply is too late. In fact it's been too late for years. I also lived in that fog you mentioned... for decades really. Looking back, I just don't know where my brain was... Mulling over my past takes my breath away. Now I'm just quietly waiting for the end to arrive.

I hope you find that way to pick up the pieces... Avoid thinking about the totality of it all. Just try to come up with one small thing you can do. Do that. And then do another one... and so forth... In that way, I believe you can find the way to begin again... The fact that you're at least considering the possibility is a good sign!

[hopeless2015]

The Skeezyks is right, pick one small thing to do and then move on to the next. I've been trying to pick up the shambles of my life for the last year. With the help of a good therapist I'm working on one thing at a time now. It was all so overwhelming that I was stuck and not doing anything for months while things continued to deteriorate. I so understand how you feel right now and I wish you nothing but the best. Big HUGS

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Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello HalloweenSkye: Well... for the Skeezyks it simply is too late. In fact it's been too late for years. I also lived in that fog you mentioned... for decades really. Looking back, I just don't know where my brain was... Mulling over my past takes my breath away. Now I'm just quietly waiting for the end to arrive.

I hope you find that way to pick up the pieces... Avoid thinking about the totality of it all. Just try to come up with one small thing you can do. Do that. And then do another one... and so forth... In that way, I believe you can find the way to begin again... The fact that you're at least considering the possibility is a good sign!

i agree with these comments.

i'm still young, so should have lots of time to make changes and find happyness- but i don't even have good education in any subject (even history, and i love history), i've been told i can't work, i don't have goals or ambition, and the way i've been treating my body.. that's going to kill me before i do

i'm done for

on the subject of body neglect, i do so little exercise that reaching to anything higher than my desk causes a problem

it's sort of a ****ing miracle i'm here

Thanks I know I have time to fix this..and I have to do it bit by bit. But I don't even know where to start. I just feel overwhelmed and hopeless. It's weird. I'm used to feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, helpless etc when I am really depressed and suicidal. Right now I wouldn't say I was particularly depressed but I'm getting those same feelings anyway, just because of how my life has turned out. I'm happier but still can't handle it.

[TishaBuv]

I feel things are pretty ruined right now, but we must keep moving forward. Life is never perfect anyway. Every day has ups and downs. Just try to have each day bring a few more ups.

[Yours_Truly]

I hear you. I could have written both of OPs posts & everyone elses. And I'm no spring chicken.
But the s#!& is gonna hit the fan before long & I'll be under the bridge if I don't change soon. It's so embarrassing I can't even go there.

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Yours_Truly

I hear you. I could have written both of OPs posts & everyone elses. And I'm no spring chicken.
But the s#!& is gonna hit the fan before long & I'll be under the bridge if I don't change soon. It's so embarrassing I can't even go there.

I'll join you under the bridge. We'll make a fire in a trash can and roast marshmallows.

I've had a lot of things happen in my life, unexpected things. There has been a ribbon of tragedy threading through my life, I've come to accept it. Things definitely have not gone as expected lol

I think that each new day is a new experience. Some are spent hidden under the covers, some are not. We do our best with what we've been dealt and find gratitude in what we do have...that is how I proceed.