stuff we've missed out on because of depression or otherwise

so the other day i was replying to a thread and commented that i'd never been to a supermarket, and i'd never been to a beach

got me thinking..

what do you feel you've missed out on (either because of mental health or another reason), but stuff you feel you should have had experience with?

mine are:

1. a loving family/ love in general

2. a complete childhood

3. good education

4. vacations (family or otherwise)

i'll start with those- i am sure i'll come up with more

I feel like I've missed out on a few things. The main one being falling in love and being married with a family. I'm working on my education, but it's taken me a looooooooooooooong time to do so (I'm now 42). There is definitely more, but those are two of the main things I can think of at the moment.

Having someone in my life to love.

I would say a college degree,having a career,friends and boyfriend. I'm such a disappointment��

Having a romantic relationship (in the last 8 years).
Making friends in the town I've lived in for the past 14 years.
Keeping in close contact with my friends in the town I used to live in.
Finding a career I really want and like.
Traveling more.
Decorating the house I've lived in for the past 2 years.
I'm sure there's more, but those came to mind right away.

A few things that I can think of. I feel like I missed out on a romantic relationship, a good solid career (I feel like I never had a "real" job), great friends, and now I feel like I'm missing out on moving from where I live because of not being crazy about change.

Having a family, friends and a good social life.
I got the education, career and travel, but only with a huge amount of stress, anxiety and meds. So I can do the technical stuff, but not the things related to feelings.

I was abused sexually by a male teacher. Lost my trust. Don't have many close friends because of it. I am close guarded and its hard to let people get close to me

I've missed out on great academic and employment options that would have put me at a better place than I am now. I've said "no" to myself many times and have held back instead of trying my luck at things and seeing where they could lead. I've also missed out on what could have been good friendships a few times because I didn't feel "good enough". Rather than look back at those instances with regret, I prefer to grow as much as I can now so that I can handle my depression and be in control of my life. I'm still in my twenties and have an undergraduate degree. I know I can find a career I enjoy and can do well in. I'm glad I'm on these forums to share with others and have the life I know I deserve.

Depression has taken a lot away from me. I've failed at having a "normal" life because of it. I've failed at relationships. I've not been able to be the parent I wanted to be. I have zero friends. I am always sad and lonely. I cannot function in the real world like a "normal" person does because of depression. It is a never ending gut wrenching feeling that goes on inside of me every moment of my life because of depression.

Hi there,

I have a few (or 3 or 1,000) lol

1. A loving marriage
2. Vacations
3. Education
4. Money (financial security)
5. Sanity (peace)
6. Friends

I'm sure I have more too. I keep trying to hold on to the belief that I can still have these things someday but more often than not I feel it's hopeless. I am grateful though too that we live in a day and age where we have medications to at least help I guess! God Bless!!! 😀

I'm thankful my depression has been fairly well controlled, but I've missed a class on watercolor painting that I wanted to go to, many social meetings, and outings to activities in town such as plays, etc.

[QUOTE=LuvMyKing;5268194]Hi there,

I have a few (or 3 or 1,000) lol

1. A loving marriage
2. Vacations
3. Education
4. Money (financial security)
5. Sanity (peace)
6. Friends

I'm sure I have more too. I keep trying to hold on to the belief that I can still have these things someday but more often than not I feel it's hopeless. I am grateful though too that we live in a day and age where we have medications to at least help I guess! God Bless!!

welcome to the site, hope it's useful to you being here.

good list by the way

Same as everyone else

1. good education (very inhibited,shy) & a higher education
2. career
3. soul-mate, marriage, and family
4. friends & social life
5. financial security
6. travel, hobbies, entertainment
7. peace & contentment

I think I would have done better in college and grad school grade-wise and I would have more friends.

I have all the things everyone wants; loving husband and child (actually they are the best that has ever happened to me), nice house, 2 good friends, savings, career etc. Then I feel guilty because how can I be depressed with all that in my life. Instead I walk around feeling fat and homely and a failure at my career. Lately I have been struggling and I took a nap rather than go to a party yesterday. I wanted to go but I was too damn tired. Today I couldn't make myself call my best friend to wish her a happy birthday. I feel terrible about that but I will call her tomorrow. Too bad guilt doesn't motivate me.