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Old Oct 10, 2016, 09:17 AM
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i was wondering if it was possible not to use phrases like

"I can't cope"

Or

"I'm pathetic"

I just deleted a post...

Which basically said how pathetic and "needy" I am..

(Pathetic and ugly me)

But I wonder, how helpful is it for us to beat ourselves up with some of the same sticks the abusers used

Btw I was a very unloveable child... And really nothing much has changed, just now my body is falling apart
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Old Oct 10, 2016, 09:23 AM
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You're not pathetic or ugly (((((Fuzzy)))))
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Old Oct 10, 2016, 03:55 PM
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Amazing. Two people ("people"?) can observe the same life and "see" entirely different things.

I "see" you, dear Fuzzybear, and my impressions are entirely different from those of your abusers. (Or, were they trying to fool you with falsehoods?)

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Old Oct 10, 2016, 05:42 PM
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Old Oct 10, 2016, 05:51 PM
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It's not helpful at all to repeat to ourselves what we've been told by people with only malice in their hearts. It does no one any good. I just wish it was that simple. I do it all of the time and it sounds like you do as well. If only there was a switch that could turn those "voices" off.
At a young age, these people conditioned our brains. Now, we have to find some way to reconstruct our way of thinking. Way easier said than done.
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Old Oct 10, 2016, 05:51 PM
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Yeah. They have their own problems, we don't need to think they know us well, or have any perspective, we can say "I am a good person" we can say "Now I will know how to do that/handle that next time" (may never come but hey...). "I am just a person and that makes me a being moving along with so many others, the struggle to change what we do with what makes us, or to keep our way of coping no matter if it is not working...sometimes, a place just seems like a good spot to lie down in...
But, just a couple of days ago, I walked the streets of nyc and had a wonderfilled time of art, color, shapes, vignettes, smells, light, the angles, the park of all city parks
today, home, a warning bell sounds off in the distance.
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Old Oct 11, 2016, 11:20 AM
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You're not pathetic. You're a good bear. Don't listen to the mean people inside your head.
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Old Oct 11, 2016, 06:22 PM
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You seem lovable to me and we all are needy in some way. Humans just aren't meant to be isolated! I wish I could visit you in your "cave".
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