Someone to talk to

I just need someone to talk to.

what about? (if it is very private you dont have to post here but feel free to if you do want to)

I'm probably gonna terminate with t. Maybe try a different T. Idk though. I had a tms consult today. Just feeling down and confused and I don't really have anyone to talk to about it since I broke up with my bf

that must be hard. do you want to talk about why you might be terminating with your T here? and i am sorry about the breakup too that must just make things even more difficult.

What's tms?

Things just haven't been working. I haven't made any progress and frankly I don't think she takes me seriously. I just don't think our styles mesh well.

Transcranial magnetic stimulation. It's the therapy where they put a magnet on your head and stimulate part of your brain. I'm considering because meds have failed to work for me. I'm desperate for something to work but I'm nervous about this since it's so new and weird.

Maybe it'd be a good idea to look for another therapist and when you find one, then drop your current. I agree that you shouldn't stay with someone who doesn't work well with you.
I'm sorry about the loss of your relationship. That can be really hard, especially if it was long term.

Hi Ellie Jo
I quit therapy twice last year.
- The first time He told me that my lack of communication was annoying and that i was insulting him by not trusting him (we have a LONG history). I threw his money on his desk, thanking him for his patience "up until now" and stormed out. Just wasn't in the right mood to hear what a crappy patient I am.
- the second time I was so suicidal and in such a mess that I figured I was a massive burden and ought go. I was "sure" I wanted to leave.

Both times I called back, horrified that I'd left and begging to be allowed back. Both times he was kind and forgiving, although I did have to wait a month to get "my" slot back the second time.

I nearly didn't go this week either because I just felt so unhelpable. (I think I just created a new word!!). But I know this is a bad idea FOR ME. I have a good one.

I think what I'm saying is;
1. Be very very clear about why you're thinking of leaving, and if it's really what you want.
2. Discuss the fact that u want to leave WITH the therapist. A good one will want to know why and will want to help you work on yr two-way relationship so u get what u need. If they don't, or get gravely offended when u say you might be leaving without considering yr needs, RUN FOR THE HILLS!

But - don't just leave because yr not working hard enough or giving the T enough... it might be you. And be there for a goodbye if you're sure!!!

Discuss it first!!!

Sorry about yr BF too. Is it REALLY over?

Good luck

FALLING TEARS

It's probably me. I suck at talking about things. I just don't know how. Your advice is good, I think. I'll definitely talk it over with t next time.

And yeah it's over. We even tried to be friends but couldn't make it work so he's totally gone. I feel lonely and sad.

TMS - people in my support group have had it and say wonders about it. The one downside is that it can really interfere with work and your routine. You are required to go every day for the duration of the treatment which could be 30 days or longer.

And, speaking of support groups, do you belong or would you consider attending one? I find since attending (2 plus years) one that it is easier to open up to people - and reach out if I need them. The group I attend is 'self-moderated'. That means there is no professional present. We are about sharing and caring as opposed to therapy or judgement.

I've never considered it. How did you find your group?

Have you tried writing what you feel?
It can be a good starting point.
If u can't read it to her, she might read it herself.
Depends ...
But worth a try...
You could start with "I'm thinking of leaving because I just don't seem to be getting anywhere..." and if she's responding in a way that makes u comfortable but you still can't talk, tell u have notes...
I'm a shocking talker!!!

Take care

FT

I have tried writing before. It worked in that i was able to bring up a subject by letting t read it because I was too scared to talk about it but she kind of blew it off. Maybe I could do it again for my next appointment. I think that would be more productive. Thanks for the suggestion.

Have u been back to the therapist yet Ellie Jo?
If so; How did it go?

FT