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#1
Mar 18, 2017, 10:02 PM
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Today I had to take my daughter to the airport by myself. She is starting a new life, elsewhere.
My husband is not here. He left yesterday and is away for a few days... "Normal" people would be able to deal with this. I know how my brain is SUPPOSED to handle this. But I am not normal...at all. And today is difficult. Very, very difficult. Please. I ask kindly that you not to tell me that things will get better and that I should be happy for her and it was bound to happen....I know these things. But, sadly, now is not a time I can see any light. It's just a vent/or a pity party or maybe I need to put my grief out there into the nothingness so that it's not JUST inside me. If you read this. Thank you. It was kind of you. |
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#2
Mar 18, 2017, 10:35 PM
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My mother cried two times, once for each first time I left home to be far away from her (I left home twice for two different countries). I suppose it is not easy especially for mothers
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Mar 18, 2017, 10:42 PM
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I just wanted to say that everybody would feel the way you do about what happened. How you're feeling is very normal. Sorry you have to face it.
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Mar 19, 2017, 07:42 AM
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I hate that word, "should". Our brain 'should' do this or 'should' do that.
'Should' is a black-hole of, dare I say it, bullsh*t. What should or shouldn't happen doesn't matter. What is, is something that can't really be contended with because it is fact. 'Should' invalidates what is. How you feel is valid and is what it is. Tell 'should' to go to hell. (sorry for the language, it's one of them days)
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Mar 19, 2017, 07:59 AM
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I am sorry you had a hard day and I hope today offers some form of peace.
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Mar 19, 2017, 08:10 AM
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It's perfectly "normal" for you to feel this way, believe me
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Mar 19, 2017, 08:10 AM
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 I can relate to many of your feelings. Sometimes we cannot stop how we feel. Go easy on yourself. <<extra hugs>>PS I hope she finds good adventures that bring her joy in her new life!! Last edited by Anonymous57777; Mar 19, 2017 at 08:23 AM. |
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Mar 19, 2017, 11:59 AM
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Quote:
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My dog  mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
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Mar 19, 2017, 12:38 PM
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I also am having a great emptyness over taking me this weekend ... you are not alone .... you will be in my thoughts ... I do not believe there is such a thing as normal ... but I pray we both find that comforting spot of accepting what is ... and rekindling joy in our sorrowful world ... be strong ... you are loved ... Tigger.
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#10
Mar 19, 2017, 01:36 PM
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Oh sophiesmom, I so understand the grief you're feeling. My two children left home to go to college 8 and 10 years ago and those were the worst days of my life. Yes, I was proud of them and no, I didn't tell them how awful I was feeling, but OMG....I still battle with empty nest syndrome. I feel like it will never go away. (((BIG hugs)))
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Mar 19, 2017, 03:39 PM
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Once upon a time I was young and went to the airport to start a new life elsewhere. And my mom wasn't there. Your daughter is very lucky. Your love will be always with her because it constitutes her. The love (or the lack of it) of one's mother is an important part of everyone.
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Mar 19, 2017, 06:06 PM
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The cherry on top...
My son was attacked by a dog today. His face looks like....Terrible. I cried when I saw him. He didn't tell me till he got home. 
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Mar 20, 2017, 06:22 AM
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How is he? What did the doctor say?
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Clara Hope is definitely not the same thing as optimism. It is not the conviction that something will turn out well, but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out. Vaclav Havel |
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Mar 20, 2017, 04:07 PM
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Oh, thank you Clara!
He's an adult actually (but he lives with us...we messed up somewhere in our childrearing, I guess and he has some issues)... So I wasn't there and I don't know the details (he doesn't say much). He has an appointment with a reconstructive specialist tomorrow....it's really not bad, but it happened at work so they have to make sure he goes to the "right" people to have it looked at. I hope they give him desk work to do for a while when he goes back.... |
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Mar 20, 2017, 06:56 PM
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I will be taking my other daughter to the airport to start another chapter in her life in a month.
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