[dexter]

I lost my job today. I haven't been going in to work because of my depression. They've been very understanding and have been floating me for many many months but today they had to pull the plug.

I'm already behind in my bills and my mortgage because I haven't been working steadily.

[Guiness187055]

Sorry to hear that. My wife just lost hers but got another job later that afternoon. There are plenty of jobs out there. Are you on meds for the depression?

[dexter]

Yes I am on Trintellix and Rexulti and I am in a year long DBT therapy program.

[Winterbritt]

I'm very sorry to hear about the loss of your job. It's hard to understand why things happen the way they do sometimes. I believe that everything comes full circle eventually, and I truly hope that this tragedy will prove to be a blessing for you in some way. My boyfriend walked out on my several years ago and it proved the be the turning point that led me out of depression. Hang in here.

[Sunflower123]

I'm very sorry to hear that you lost your job. Hopefully, you'll get another one soon maybe even better. You sound like you're really struggling with depression. I hope it eases up for you. Sending big hugs.

[dexter]

I can't even begin to look for another job while I'm suffering from this depression. It has grown into something crippling. I don't do anything anymore other than stay in bed and sleep. Since I'm no longer concerned about getting out of bed for work I may try instead to push myself to go see a movie or something.

[Shazerac]

Originally Posted by dexter

I can't even begin to look for another job while I'm suffering from this depression. It has grown into something crippling. I don't do anything anymore other than stay in bed and sleep. Since I'm no longer concerned about getting out of bed for work I may try instead to push myself to go see a movie or something.

Sounds like a good idea. Can you maybe make a tiny move toward employnpment even though you're depressed? Brush up your resume. Pick out an interview outfit? Even a little tiny step is progress.

[emgreen]

I'm sorry depression is so debilitating for you right now. I can relate, as I once had an employer who understood my depressions & worked with me. The time came, however, that they couldn't work around my depression any longer. I think you're wise to attempt to avoid isolating. In my experience, that's the worst thing to do.

[*Laurie*]

I'm so sorry about your job, dexter.

[MickeyCheeky]

I've already said how sorry I am in chat.. I hope things will start improving soon.

[MatBell]

I’m so sorry

[dexter]

My boss sent me an email today saying although he doesn't understand my battle he hopes I"m winning it.

[Beeshezee]

Originally Posted by dexter

My boss sent me an email today saying although he doesn't understand my battle he hopes I"m winning it.

It seems like he cares, how does the email make you feel?

[Fuzzybear]

[SadPam]

Originally Posted by dexter

My boss sent me an email today saying although he doesn't understand my battle he hopes I"m winning it.

Your boss sounds like a good soul. Many bosses are soulless.

I've lost many jobs over the years; my positions having been eliminated and therefore me with them. Like you, my depression hasn't helped matters; I've been off twice on STD and have called in sick hundreds of times over the years, even today. I am sorry you'd lost your job, it is such a blow to oneself on so many levels. Do what you need to do to take care of you right now. And please be kind to yourself, something I find very hard to do.

[dexter]

Originally Posted by Beeshezee

It seems like he cares, how does the email make you feel?

Overall it made me feel good like I still have a job there if I can recover in a reasonable amount of time. Frustrating that he keeps saying he doesn't understand like it's a judgement. In the past he's compared me to other coworkers with physical ailments that don't have depression as if I should look at those with worse problems and "snap out of it" but in the context of this email it seemed more gentle.

[Beeshezee]

Originally Posted by dexter

Overall it made me feel good like I still have a job there if I can recover in a reasonable amount of time. Frustrating that he keeps saying he doesn't understand like it's a judgement. In the past he's compared me to other coworkers with physical ailments that don't have depression as if I should look at those with worse problems and "snap out of it" but in the context of this email it seemed more gentle.

That’s great on both counts, making you feel good and the gentleness!

When you say frustrating, I’m pretty sure that he must be frustrated too, especially since he clearly admits not having a personal reference point. I think he must care about you and wishes he could help but it’s hard not knowing how and being limited from the business position he is in.

I can somewhat understand, since few years ago I had an employee who I really liked but they too were doing battle with an illness and I was strongly encouraged to stop protecting and make sure I was following policy and protocol...

I felt really caught in an internal struggle trying to balance the employee needs, the team frustrations on not being able to count on that person and the business needs....

A no win situation... in the long run, half of the department was let go, the employee explored other opportunities to be more accommodating to her circumstance and she’s so much happier. I’m retired and I still keep in touch with her.

Hugs to you... keep the faith

Originally Posted by dexter

Frustrating that he keeps saying he doesn't understand like it's a judgement. In the past he's compared me to other coworkers with physical ailments that don't have depression as if I should look at those with worse problems and "snap out of it" but in the context of this email it seemed more gentle.

I have a good friend who's like that. He doesn't understand the way I am. Oh yea, he tells me to 'snap out of it' or 'stop it' a lot.

Sorry to hear about your job loss. I'm always in fear that I could lose mine. If I did, I would be so lost. Jobs are just not that secure these days. In the past I would lose a job and feel like there had been a death with a loved one of mine.

I hope that things will be better for you and you'll get a real good position just right for you.

[dexter]

"Snap out of it" SMH

[Travelinglady]

((((Dexter)))) I know you feel hopeless because of your depression, but there's
hope nonetheless. What's your doc doing to help? Changing your meds or anything?

[dexter]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

What's your doc doing to help? Changing your meds or anything?

My pdoc is trying me on a stimulant to help me get out of bed (see my other thread Nuvigil vs Ritalin) and my T is trying different things to try to get me up and back to work. Thank you for your comment.

[feeshee]

Good luck to you Dexter. I've been there, so I know how you feel.