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I am done trying to find help for me. I will still try to help you guys. But I am done with me. It's obvious it just isn't supposed to happen. I will be here as much as I can though.
Take care. ❤
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#3
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Yes I am
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I’m angry with your SO ...
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Love ya too My friend ❤
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I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful. I was sort of reduced to lending an ear and offering hugs.
I'm really glad to hear you'll still be around here. I know you're probably not in the mood, but maybe it would help to just engage in some other talk. Nothing that needs to be fixed or figured out or debated. Just a pleasant conversation of some kind. I can do that. (I can tone down the silliness I exhibit in other sub-forums.) I think you could really use a little friendly and un-stressful interaction. ![]() Last edited by CepheidVariable; Nov 23, 2017 at 12:46 AM. |
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You have nothing to apologize for. You nor anybody else here did anything wrong.
"Idle banter" (that's my name for what you are speaking of) doesn't help me when I am like this. I seriously need to be able to talk - but I need to be able to talk and feel I am finding solutions. I already know the "go to" answer for abuse. If it were that simple it would be fine, but it's not, so it isn't ... and the more I try to explain the more it gets everybody (including me) upset. It isn't anyone's fault. Nobody has given bad advice or been unsupportive - its just ts like there is a "bubble" put around a person after he or she says or alludes to "abuse" - n tunnel vision sets in. I am guilty of doing the same thing at times. Its natural to want to get someone out of an abusive situation. What people forget though is that abuse is different for different people. When I was in an abuse shelter, there was a girl there who came bc her husband would drug her n
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So - forgive me - but yes (not trying to be mean or rude or angry - just straightforward), I would rather understand that he is trying and try to find a place he can be comfortable getting help at. Especially since the last shelter I went to - sent me right back to him anyway. I am not blaming anyone for anything. It's just a mixed up n messed up situation I am in that I don't see how anyone can understand. If I was not in it myself, I would not fully get it. I would just keep saying "ok, you had one bad experience - but doesn't mean it will be that way this time. Isn't it worth trying?" I know the good intentions n the reasons behind it. I just don't know that anyone (anywhere) will ever truly be able to put themselves in my place and see what I am looking for is answers. I do not need advice on how to escape or why I should... I know those things. What I don't know is how I can truly help myself. See .. I will never trust another shelter. I have been hurt by both the Salvation Army n now an abuse shelter. I barely trust the MH system bc they told him its understandable he abuses me - so he did it all the more (b4 I left him), but I am willing to try to get him into therapy again n get myself in IF we find a place with good MH help and affordable cost. I do see improvement in him so I do believe he is trying. I have 2 Chihuahuas I refuse to abandon a second time. I have nowhere to go n no finances to be able to live on my own bc of state laws regarding separation m divorce. So ... I need answers. But I will not get them. And it's nobody's fault. I love everybody here. *hugs* ❤
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Thank you for being concerned about our feelings. When I said I was sorry, I just meant I'm sad that I'm not able to help.
The rest of it is just so awful. I don't know what to say. I guess I should say I'm not trying to be subtle here either. I think it's obvious that I want you to keep talking so that you don't feel isolated and potentially despairing. The last thing someone in your position needs is to feel they have no one else to talk to, and to be cut off from the rest of the world. We care about you. Thank you. ![]() ![]() |
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You are right - being cut off from the rest of the world is the last thing I need. But right now I don't see me talking doing anything except upsetting everyone. I don't want anyone upset. But like I said, I honestly don't think there's anyway anyone can fully understand this situation. It's just too complex and mixed up. I will just have to figure out my answers on my own ![]() I want to help you guys though. Doing that makes me feel good. ❤
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Is there any kind of support group out there for women that have the same challenges? It’s true that we can’t fully understand your situation since we aren’t in your shoes. That must be frustrating. I know that you have received (as you’ve mentioned) some less than helpful responses but please know that most of the people who have responded care about you and are trying to ease your distress.
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Me - I would stick to where I can survive...and just suck up the disappointment everytime the rescuers did not see me. That's the best I can relate this situation. I know the simple answer. What I don't know - is the "right" answer. I hope that makes sense.
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