[MtnTime2896]

I'm not gonna lie, it hurts. I know, I know I'm no good, let alone good enough for her son. In truth, I don't think she ever liked me (unless I was giving her free **** to get high on), but I think she tolerated me for him. And now, I walk in the door to pick up something and inside thirty seconds she wants me to leave. I ****ed up and tried to make a joke, you know, like I used to and she'd laugh. She didn't laugh, just stepped away and gave me a look that said, "**** off." While I'm in the bathroom, I heard her tell my fiance, "She needs to leave. I don't want her around here." Just to think, I used to think she was part of my family. Ha, I guess she really fits the profile now with hating me and all.

Why the **** am I still living? I'm really, honestly and with no questions asked: Worthless. She knows it. Maybe my fiance should listen to her. He deserves better. Not this pathetic, psychotic bum that can't even work. I'm not good enough and never will be. And yeah it hurts, but it only hurts because I know she's right. I'm sorry I even ****ing exist.

[whisperingskye]

I’m so sorry, that must be so painful to hear. I guess the good thing is, you’re engaged to your fiance not his mother. And while it sucks that she doesn’t seem to like you that doesn’t really matter because your fiance has his own mind. He can still love you and be there for you regardless of what she has to say. But I get that it hurts, and I’m sorry.

(((((((So leigheas))))))))

[Fuzzybear]

She sounds mean . I disagree that you’re not good enough . Boyfriends mothers “hated” me, and it hurt (in my case it was mostly because of my anxiety, some said all sorts of horrible things )

Your fiancé loves you, I know it’s hard but try to “ignore” her stupid opinions ..

(((((((( So leigheas ))))))))

[MickeyCheeky]

She's the one who doesn't deserve you in her family.

[RJ42]

I've run into several people with that type of behavior. You are not the problem. She is acting childish rather than talk to you decently.

[MtnTime2896]

I appreciate what all of you are saying, but in truth I'm really not a good person. Maybe my fiance just can't (or won't) see that. I'm a failure in more ways than one and I can't even keep my crap together enough to work. My fiance deserves someone who can help provide. He doesn't need a dependent nut job.

[MtnTime2896]

"There are times when I kick myself
Say I’m not sick but I can’t get well
Say I got this while I chase my tail
As if they can’t tell"

[mulan]

(((((só leigheas)))))

That must hurt.

The first step for being liked is liking oneself. This might sound a cliché, but for the majority of people it doesn't matter who you are but how do you present yourself.

[CepheidVariable]

Originally Posted by Só leigheas

I appreciate what all of you are saying, but in truth I'm really not a good person. Maybe my fiance just can't (or won't) see that. I'm a failure in more ways than one and I can't even keep my crap together enough to work. My fiance deserves someone who can help provide. He doesn't need a dependent nut job.

I won't dispute that failing at important things really hurts and is a problem. But failing doesn't make you bad person. You still choose how you treat people. You have shown a great deal of care for those close to you. We all have our faults, but there is good in you and about you.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by CepheidVariable

I won't dispute that failing at important things really hurts and is a problem. But failing doesn't make you bad person. You still choose how you treat people. You have shown a great deal of care for those close to you. We all have our faults, but there is good in you and about you.

This is a good post and I agree. Even if someone failed at some or even most of their jobs, (work places, so long as they don’t harm others) it wouldn’t make them a bad person or even an “intrinsically inferior person”. Failing at anything hurts, especially when we’ve been abused by so many

But there is a lot of good in you, that’s what matters - I strongly believe that your fiancé is “right” (I’ve struggled with similar )