[Neverever86]

It’s not easy to say as I’m 30 but I’ve been in love with a video game guy for 12 years. He is perfect I love the way he looks his voice his personality he’s everything I want in guy. I’ve had anxiety depression since I was 17. Also ocd and agoraphobia I’ve been miserable all these years I have no friends and never had a boyfriend either. I’ve been to therapists but they didn’t help meds didn’t help. I’m completely lost in life and now my age makes me feel like I’m on a timeline if I want to find a guy and have kids. Also I feel I’m not ready for relationship because of all my problems and I hate that. I really love this character I think about him all the time and get depressed he’s not real. I barely find real life guys attractive it’s rare to find my type of guy. I want to find someone like him but don’t think they exist. Also I think he’s taking over my life.I don’t know what to do. Anyone have any advice?

[fairweather]

I’m a bit younger than you, but I too really love a video game character. I feel a bit different (I don’t want kids or a 3D hubby), but I’ll try to be as of much help as possible.

Firstly, I don’t think you should feel so bad about liking him. You’re attracted to him and like him for a reason. Sometimes your feelings aren’t something you can help, so be gentle on yourself. I don't think it's anything you should feel ashamed of. I used to think that no one else liked fictional characters to the intensity that I do, but quite a few people do so you don't have to feel alone in that.

I can understand how it feels to think you’re on a timeline, but that isn’t necessarily true. You say you want to get married and have kids, but 30 is still young. Everything takes time, and if you feel like you aren’t in a place to be in a relationship there’s no need to force anything. Take your time, allow yourself to heal, and figure yourself out. Everyone's different. Some people get married at 18, some at 25, some it takes them a bit longer, and that's all OK! You don't have to pressure yourself

If you want, you can PM me and talk about how you’re feeling. I’m open to listen and talk about it all.

[MatBell]

Just want to say that I feel a lot like you. I know what it’s like to disappear into something away from the real world that has never been a good place. I get into some things that I’m almost embarrassed about and I don’t know why.
I love video games too, never found a charachter like you have though.

[mote.of.soul]

Hi. I'm not an expert but I think the video character is simply filling the void of loneliness in your life. It's not really that much different to someone who watches certain tv shows every week because they've grown fond of the characters. I guess my only advice is to keep chipping away at your OCD and agoraphobia which could change your current situation for the near future. Don't worry, you'll meet someone eventually. 30s not old.

when I used to play a space adventure game a few years ago (RPG game), I became in love with my character on the game.

here she was, a 22 year old pilot, setting out in her spaceship to destroy planets and asteroids (and other naughty aliens), then she would come home, talk with her boyfriend (she had one in the game), and they would go on late night picnics or to the beach.

and then you log off and think... wow. you're life is 100 times worse than that

I guess what I'm saying is..... I know. I know what it's like

[Neverever86]

Thanks everyone.