[cryingontheinside]

So I'm just trying to mind my own business and keep away from people because of my depression . I even get my food shopping online to avoid people and my anxiety .
So the driver came and he was very chatty which I found annoying because he was asking me personal questions i.e if I work and where I work . I lied and said I worked part time to avoid more personal questions . He then started chatting me up and said could we stay in contact . Omg was horrified and did not know what to do. I said I would take his number even though I had no intention to stay in touch but I felt so uncomfortable and did not know what to do. He insisted I gave him a missed call so I did and now he has my number . Ugh! No no no this is not good. I hate this . Anyway I look so scruffy and rough and not attractive in anyway that I was totally not expecting this at all. I hate this . I won't report him because I don't want to get him sacked but I am so not happy about this. Now I will have to reject his calls and hope that he never comes back to deliver . Ugh. I wish I was more assertive . I wish I said I was married. Sorry I guess this is more of rant than anything else .

I would hope that being a driver for a supermarket, that he would have more important things to do than to constantly call you.

you never know, he may actually leave you alone now.

maybe he does it to everyone (ask for the numbers etc)

and hey, if he tries anything or starts harassing you, complain about him.

he's just a driver. you can complain to where he works- the head office

hugs!

[Hobbit House]

His behavior crossed boundaries. I know you don’t want him fired, but think of your own safety first!

[SlumberKitty]

That was unprofessional of the driver. If he starts calling you, I would report him. It sounds like you felt pressured into giving him your number, but you shouldn't be made to feel pressured. So sorry that happened.

[Sassandclass]

It sounds a lot like he hit on you - Sounds like you made an impression on him and he was intrigued. Probably once he realizes you’re not into him in that way (by you not reciprocating anything) he’ll just leave you alone.

[Fuzzybear]

I had a piano tuner who was like that. He was creepy. He knew I was married Unprofessional...

I was “pretty” back then but when I put on some weight he was absolutely horrible. What a jerk. I didn’t look “bad” ... geeze

I’m guessing you’re prettier than you think, not that that’s much consolation when a creep tries to hit on you

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Sassandclass

It sounds a lot like he hit on you - Sounds like you made an impression on him and he was intrigued. Probably once he realizes you’re not into him in that way (by you not reciprocating anything) he’ll just leave you alone.

No I didn't even speak untill he asked me questions and I gave the shortest possible answers , I was embarrassed and just wanted him to leave . I didn't make any impression on him. He must do this all the time to people but I am too vunerable. I just want to be left alone and not bothered by anybody . I know I'm probably making a big deal out of something small but I try so hard to avoid this kind of thing . I'm paranoid that if a man hits on me it's because he has bad. Intentions towards me because that has been the case in the past many times and I just want to be left alone . I was wearing leggings and a t-shirt . I haven't brushed my hair . I never wear make up . I just want to be left alone and not bothered in my own house .

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

I had a piano tuner who was like that. He was creepy. He knew I was married Unprofessional...

I was “pretty” back then but when I put on some weight he was absolutely horrible. What a jerk. I didn’t look “bad” ... geeze

I’m guessing you’re prettier than you think, not that that’s much consolation when a creep tries to hit on you

I'm not pretty . I don't make any effort with my looks because I never want anyone to hit on me any more . They treated me so bad . I put on weight too because of a medication I was on .
I'm sorry for your experience with that horrible man .
I actually feel like taking this down because it looks like I'm crying that somebody was interested in me . The point is I don't feel safe and secure in my home when this stupid **** happens. I have been too affected and scared my everything that has happened to me in my past and I'm just trying to feel safe and protected now in my own little world.
One time a guy bullied me into having sex with him the night I was injured and had a head injury . I didn't want to sleep with this guy and I was injured. He pretended he was being nice to me , taking off my clothes and washing the blood off me but he wasn't doing it to be nice , only to see me naked . I tried to put my night clothes on but he wouldn't let me. Then he bullied me to have sex with him after I repeatedly said no . It wasn't rape . But I was pressured and it makes me angry and hurt when I think about it . Why would anyone try to have sex with an injured person ? After it happened he went downstairs and tried to have sex with my friend .

[Fuzzybear]

There are a lot of cruel, scary people in this world. I’ve been r.ped by callous men too. . I don’t think this man will hurt you, I don’t blame you for not taking care of your appearance . I don’t either but not for exactly the same reasons

[cryingontheinside]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

There are a lot of cruel, scary people in this world. I’ve been r.ped by callous men too. . I don’t think this man will hurt you, I don’t blame you for not taking care of your appearance . I don’t either but not for exactly the same reasons

I'm sorry that you have been through that . Yes there are so many bad people in the world. I have met many of them and it affects me so much

[winter4me]

It sounds like the hard part for you is to let someone know you are NOT interested and saying it out loud. You are NOT obliged to answer any question asked, it is OK to ignore them and stay "on business" or to say "I do not give out my phone number.". And, by the way, it WAS rape if you said no and he verbally and physically interfered with you getting your clothing or leaving. You did not say Yes. It was, it IS rape. I know what you are saying and there is a time I would have rationalized this kind of event in the same way, we are given the clear message (underneath the guise sometimes of "liberation" (which importantly means saying NO and being respected, and saying Yes to what is best for you).

[winter4me]

we are given the message that men "can't control" themselves and we need to be a 'certain kind of woman' to please and a very different one to be respected. It's crazy-making.

[MickeyCheeky]

Sorry that you were scared.

(((((crying))))) so sorry about creepy driver, hopefully he leaves you alone now

(((((Fuzzy))))) so sorry about your experiences as well, you did not deserve that

And here's another couple of hugs so there's not three of anything in this post