[LifelongLoner]

As usual for a Saturday, I am sitting in the dark and sitting at the compter. I do not want to go out or to get dressed. I get totally lazy because I am tired from working all week and from the holidays. I need to change this losing pattern.

I caught a cold this week. Signed up for a tennis party and showed up only to find out that the heat at the courts was not working. Played against my better judgment and am now paying the price.

I continue to avoid people. I just do not seem to enjoy the company of other people very much. Enjoy is the key word; for some reason I prefer to be alone.

I am thinking of giving up tennis. The game is not the same. The racquets are too light and much too stiff. I can't seem to find a racquet that works for me. And, being a below average athlete, I cannot keep up with the other players. I have to find a new hobby.

[MickeyCheeky]

((((LifelongLoner)))) I'm so sorry you're struggling. I can relate to what you say. I just hope you'll feel better soon. Do you see a therapist? Either way, remember that we're here to listen, if you want to vent

I'm sorry to hear about this. To me it sounded like tennis was a good thing. Do you prefer to be all alone? Would you want to have a good friend? If you like to have a friend, was there someone at tennis you could have connected with?

I spend a lot of time alone myself. When I was younger, it really got on my nerves to be alone. But now, I have been alone so long that it doesn't phase me anymore. But still I would like to have some kind of companionship. That's just me anyways.

I hear you about losing interest in tennis. I have not been involved in any sports in a very long time. Though I keep in shape with bike riding, walking, and working out. There are times when I feel like I'm losing interest in working out and bike riding. With working out, it's hard work and sometimes I get hurt. In bike riding there's anxiety about getting a flat tire or breaking down a long way from home. But I feel like those two things are important to me.

I wish for the best for you. Hope your cold gets better!

[Fuzzybear]

[LifelongLoner]

Originally Posted by will19

I'm sorry to hear about this. To me it sounded like tennis was a good thing. Do you prefer to be all alone? Would you want to have a good friend? If you like to have a friend, was there someone at tennis you could have connected with?

I spend a lot of time alone myself. When I was younger, it really got on my nerves to be alone. But now, I have been alone so long that it doesn't phase me anymore. But still I would like to have some kind of companionship. That's just me anyways.

I hear you about losing interest in tennis. I have not been involved in any sports in a very long time. Though I keep in shape with bike riding, walking, and working out. There are times when I feel like I'm losing interest in working out and bike riding. With working out, it's hard work and sometimes I get hurt. In bike riding there's anxiety about getting a flat tire or breaking down a long way from home. But I feel like those two things are important to me.

I wish for the best for you. Hope your cold gets better!

Thanks for your comments. I did the gym for many years but grew bored as I did not talk with anyone and did not get the results that I wanted - it did not make me more attractive in the eyes of others. Did bike riding for a while too. Where I live, it's seasonal. Currently, it's too cold. My metabolism is not healthy enough to exercise in the cold.

I had a tennis buddy - best friend for many years. He got depressed and drank himself to death. Towards the end he got demanding and verbally abusive - I had to end the friendship. Since then - that was at least 10 years ago - I have had no friends. I face a lot of discrimination for being old. My body does not hold up well and I am very stiff and sore after playing tennis thanks to arthritis. I am trying to get fitter and lose some weight. But, my tennis playing is now bad. The game has changed - it's a power game and I was always short on that. I don't see much of a future for me in tennis because I can't keep up with the other players. Yet, I also can't seem to come up with other interests. That's the problem.

(((((Lifelong))))) so sorry you're feeling like this, I do hope you can find something else to take up as a hobby if that's what you want to do

[Skeezyks]

Thanks for the update. I think I've probably mentioned, in previous replies to your threads, that I'm pretty much reclusive at this point in my life... by choice. I simply prefer to be left alone. I had an internet friend who lives in the U.K. for a few years. But a while back I even dumped him.

About the only exercise I get is walking the dog. My wife & I live in a townhome & so we have no yard of our own. Consequently we have to take our dog out for walks at least a couple of times a day. And our dog likes his walks! So one or the other of us, or both, take him for fairly long walks regardless of the weather. Sun, heat, rain, snow, ice, frigid temperatures... we're out there. It does help to keep us at least modestly fit.

I don't know anything about it, but there's a tennis-like game that seems to be popular here where I live called pickle ball. It seems as though it's perhaps a less intense form of tennis. So I wondered if something such as that might be a possible tennis substitute since you mentioned you're thinking of giving up tennis?

Of course I don't know how old you are. Presumably since you're still working you're not as old as I am. I do know something about giving stuff up though. It seems as though, over the years, I've just lost interest in doing much of anything. I don't even read anymore (with the exception of posts here on PC.) I'm a home bread baker. And I spend a lot of time here on PC (probably too much.) I also do housekeeping chores. But that's about it.

Hope you begin to recover from your cold soon.

[LifelongLoner]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Thanks for the update. I think I've probably mentioned, in previous replies to your threads, that I'm pretty much reclusive at this point in my life... by choice. I simply prefer to be left alone. I had an internet friend who lives in the U.K. for a few years. But a while back I even dumped him.

About the only exercise I get is walking the dog. My wife & I live in a townhome & so we have no yard of our own. Consequently we have to take our dog out for walks at least a couple of times a day. And our dog likes his walks! So one or the other of us, or both, take him for fairly long walks regardless of the weather. Sun, heat, rain, snow, ice, frigid temperatures... we're out there. It does help to keep us at least modestly fit.

I don't know anything about it, but there's a tennis-like game that seems to be popular here where I live called pickle ball. It seems as though it's perhaps a less intense form of tennis. So I wondered if something such as that might be a possible tennis substitute since you mentioned you're thinking of giving up tennis?

Of course I don't know how old you are. Presumably since you're still working you're not as old as I am. I do know something about giving stuff up though. It seems as though, over the years, I've just lost interest in doing much of anything. I don't even read anymore (with the exception of posts here on PC.) I'm a home bread baker. And I spend a lot of time here on PC (probably too much.) I also do housekeeping chores. But that's about it.

Hope you begin to recover from your cold soon.

I have heard of pickleball. Where I live, no one seems to play it. It's similar to tennis in concept but uses a paddle and Whiffle-like balls. Where I live, bocce ball is more popular! Perhaps the real issue is where I live. It does not suit me because it's too expensive - if not impossible - to enjoy the things I like to do. I would be much happier in the suburbs where exercise facilities are more readily available.