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Dec 29, 2007, 07:15 PM
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Hi everyone. I'm feeling drained....from my own thougts ...from the speed of the holidays...las week we were running around to get our Christmas gifts and preparations and now I'm getting ready to run to the store to get my New years eve food and preparations...I'm Exhausted and just "going through the motions". I have a "LARGE" pile of clothes sitting there for daysssssssss...and yet another day passes and I don't do it...not because I haven't had an hour left over to do it but because the depression is so intense....I did get the floors clean and picked up the kids room and dinner is done...but I sometimes feel like a failure for not being able to do it all...going through a bit of the "Superwoman Syndrone"....anyone feel this before?
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#2
Dec 29, 2007, 07:51 PM
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Rosario, let it sit. It's a sitting tribute to all that you did accomplish and that you know when you need to draw the line and turn to taking care of yourself.
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Dec 29, 2007, 08:02 PM
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DAILY!!!! and i dont have kids, just moggles to pick up after. and our clothes is the bane, oh well, that and dishes and making bed and sweeping and vacuuming, and shopping and cooking and litter and feeding animals and and and the list can go on and on!!!!
I have hours a day to do it, now it is even worse!!! ((((((((((((((hugggggsss))))))))))))))) let me know when you find the secret, until then lets plug away slowly, happy for the things we DID do, not sad for the ones we havent.~ Melanie
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Dec 29, 2007, 11:56 PM
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Rosario, for me to feel like superwoman would require some cross dressing so I can't relate entirely (not that I wouldn't cross dress but that's a different thread...) but I do know the feeling of being overwhelmed by your own household chores. We have three kids and we both work full time. No matter how hard both of us work, there's still more to do. Our house is in different states of chaos from day to day and it's never, ever over. My conclusion is that this is just how life goes.
Unfortunately for us, we get to deal with life while also dealing with a debilitating illness. It's not easy and it's not fair but it is what we're expected to do. My only advice is to make a little time to take care of yourself too. Your friend in the trenches of parenthood, Cyran0
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Dec 30, 2007, 12:14 AM
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Thanks to all of you who posted...and Cyrano, I must say that you made me laugh...THANKS. Yes parenthood is difficult...I have two kids 10 and 4 . I am however I guess you can say blessed to be able to stay home(although many times I wish I had a job to get a bit away from the home chaos)...but I know that I'm "lucky"...and for that I am thankful. I do try like you say Cyrano to accept that this is how parenthood is but I times I get hit with this feeling that I'm failing by not doing it all(The Superwoman syndrome)...it is one of the things that fuels my depression. Thanks to all again!!!
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Dec 30, 2007, 11:12 PM
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Oh, hon.
Don't worry about it. You're NOT a failure. A lot of us go through it, please just work towards feeling better for now. That's all that matters. |
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Dec 31, 2007, 11:03 AM
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Do a little bit, if only redistributing the clothes :-) so it feels like you are doing something with them. Sometimes doing a little bit of a lot of things helps me feel as good as doing a lot of only one or two things that need doing. Generate a little energy doing something you like too. If you like a certain chore more than others (or include a non-chore "reward" in your day) that will give you some energy rather than just sap it.
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#8
Dec 31, 2007, 05:08 PM
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another thing to try which I do ALL the time, is do a chore or part of a chore on commercials..go put all in pile, watch show, go sort, watch show, etc etc...it works for me. Or if nothing good on, I go by time, 10 mintues and rest...eventually you make a dent and it feels good...works for me...melanie
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Jan 01, 2008, 11:42 PM
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Perna and msmoggles....thank you so much for your suggestions....I will try it!!
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#10
Jan 02, 2008, 04:10 AM
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Let us know if it helped or if you modified it and now you are on your wayyyyyyyyyyyyy!!!!
Remember, once you start, you can get a burst of energy...work thru it and you will have finished completely not partially!!!! Put some music on and do the battle cry, you house no longer has you...You have the house...dust bunnies running for the exits, spiders packing up, dirty clothes, piled-wash, fold, give away bag or box, and put rest away. Every buddy Mambo....shake shake shake...Mambo...shake shake shake hehehehe can you feel the exciteent... OOO, You know what would be really awesome?? Some of us forming a support circle thing in cleaning house, tips trick tried and true and everyone listing chores they are doing and what we can compete with eachother adn have it set as a challenge...we would ALL be winners!!! oops sorry, running at mouth again, probably get banned for diahrrea of the mouth!!  .gif) .gif)      Take Care, melanie
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