...life

wow its been a long time sense iv been to this website, let alone post anything. my life right now is almost too much for me. Iv put myself in all of these corner's in my life, relationships, family, school, ect.. i feel like its all caving in on me.

how does anyone deal with life..? i mean what do you do when you cant talk to anyone?? and your drive is lost. iv tried a therapist and it simply doesn't work, iv tried to talk to friends. I just feel extremely stuck at the moment... and any advice would be awesome.

hi woods... in my experience the 'stuckness' is a recurring theme... it does release at times... for progressively longer periods if i keep working at it...

but 'stuckness' is not an experience exclusive to depression... it happens to everyone... give it some time to pass? meantime, find that alternative interest you had way back when and look into it now?

pick up a forgotten hobby? it'll keep your hands busy... i always liked modeling... i forgot to do it when i was depressed though...

come here and talk to us... its one way of telling someone, and its better than talking to walls if you want a quicker answer...

i feel we each heal at our own speed, according to what we can process and understand... i think we self protect ourselves in ways that we outgrow but the pattern keeps us in the cycle of depression...

in hindsight, i wish i'd had more patience and faith... trusting that all the confusion would eventually make sense...

its hard work processing all those thoughts and it exhausted me...

so, my advice woods is take it easy... dont over-pressure yourself, take breaks when needed, find comfort in whatever you can... surround yourself with more of it...

write yourself some positive mantras/affirmations... things like 'I'm making progress.' even on the days you dont believe it, just read it... on the days you do believe it you'll really feel its positivity at work...

have faith... take care...

I take a hard look at all aspects of my life and ditch or put aside the ones that I can; drop a class or classes, let work slide a week with a plan to do it double the next week (if you have a pattern of procrastination anyway -- I found I do eventually do the work so now I'm not so scared to deliberately not do it for a few days) and think of a couple somethings I'd like to do (go to bed with a good book and hard candy to snack on :-) and do that for a bit.

I can get into novels and sometimes self-help books when I'm having a rough time. Having a comforting little project on the side that's just mine helps me bear the other stuff sometimes.

The latest thing I did for myself was to find this forum. It really helps to talk it out here. There are so many caring people here. You are sure to get lots of support and many different ideas on how to cope.

We're here for you...and us.

i just wanted to say thank you for responding. you guys had some really good ideas, and ill definitely try them out..thanks again for the response