Home Menu

Menu


Closed Thread
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #451  
Old Dec 24, 2021, 09:29 AM
SprinkL3 SprinkL3 is offline
Account Suspended
 
Member Since: Oct 2021
Location: DELETED
Posts: 2,752
Happy Solstice and Merry Christmas! May everyone on the as-is bus be safe and experience joy this holiday season!
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Thirty shades

advertisement
  #452  
Old Dec 24, 2021, 10:34 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Quote:
Originally Posted by little turtle View Post
merry xmas and happy solstice....on the bus...as is...
Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #453  
Old Dec 24, 2021, 10:35 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #454  
Old Dec 25, 2021, 08:53 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641


Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #455  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 07:56 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Much love to all on the AS IS bus

Confessions of little turtle with love #6

__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #456  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 10:57 AM
little turtle little turtle is offline
Grand Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2014
Location: ohio
Posts: 4,045
i am now interested in the GOLDEN RULE....
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, Thirty shades
  #457  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 11:20 AM
Rohag's Avatar
Rohag Rohag is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Posts: 10,045
The Golden Rule...
I'm aware of three forms of the Golden Rule. Each contains wisdom, or so it seems to me.

"Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."
"Do not unto others what is hateful to you."
And:
"Do unto others before others can do unto you."
__________________
My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Thirty shades
  #458  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 12:14 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rohag View Post
The Golden Rule...
I'm aware of three forms of the Golden Rule. Each contains wisdom, or so it seems to me.

"Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."
"Do not unto others what is hateful to you."
And:
"Do unto others before others can do unto you."
Very wise post as always Rohag
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, Thirty shades
  #459  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 12:15 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Quote:
Originally Posted by little turtle View Post
i am now interested in the GOLDEN RULE....
I'm interested in that GOLDEN RULE too. Love and hugs to you little turtle
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, Thirty shades
  #460  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 12:28 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
A ''master manipulator''....

''A person who controls or influences others in a clever or unscrupulous way''

''This is why we must love, accept and trust ourselves, so that we can stand up to unscrupulous behaviour''

''When we doubt our feelings, and push them away, and then write a story like ''Oh they didn't treat me so bad, I must have done something to provoke it'' or you use toxic positivity and say ''I shouldn't have reacted so negatively'' we are giving in to the manipulation and abandoning ourselves.

It's ok to respond ''negatively'' there is nothing wrong with you when this happens.

Of course own your response in a situation, but make sure you communicate that the other person MUST own their behaviour, otherwise there can be no helpful resolution.

Nothing will change and you deserve to be seen, heard, respected and loved.

Meaning me, yes... Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades and all on the AS IS BUS

''Confront a manipulator about what they did wrong, and watch them make it about you'' (source - unknown)

__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, Thirty shades
  #461  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 12:53 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641


Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, Thirty shades
  #462  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 01:12 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641


Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, Thirty shades
  #463  
Old Dec 26, 2021, 07:42 PM
Rohag's Avatar
Rohag Rohag is offline
Legendary
 
Member Since: Feb 2009
Posts: 10,045
Quote:
''This is why we must love, accept and trust ourselves,
I've fallen short [understatement] of this particular "must".
Quote:
so that we can stand up to unscrupulous behaviour''
Some people are good at confronting others. I'm not. Additionally, my observation is that confrontation rarely results in a change in the confronted's behaviour. I find it easier, more effective (and more isolating) to detach from manipulators.

__________________
My dog mastered the "fetch" command. He would communicate he wanted something, and I would fetch it.
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #464  
Old Dec 28, 2021, 07:58 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #465  
Old Dec 29, 2021, 07:58 AM
SprinkL3 SprinkL3 is offline
Account Suspended
 
Member Since: Oct 2021
Location: DELETED
Posts: 2,752
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

I hope everyone on the as-is bus has a Happy New Year!
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Thirty shades
  #466  
Old Dec 29, 2021, 08:09 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #467  
Old Dec 29, 2021, 10:08 AM
Thirty shades's Avatar
Thirty shades Thirty shades is offline
Grand Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2018
Location: UK
Posts: 4,817
Confessions of little turtle with love #6
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, SprinkL3
  #468  
Old Dec 29, 2021, 04:19 PM
little turtle little turtle is offline
Grand Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2014
Location: ohio
Posts: 4,045
AS IS .....................and a friend to yourself
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #469  
Old Dec 31, 2021, 07:46 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #470  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 12:19 AM
SprinkL3 SprinkL3 is offline
Account Suspended
 
Member Since: Oct 2021
Location: DELETED
Posts: 2,752
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

I hope everyone has a safe and happy and hopeful New Year!
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Thirty shades
  #471  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 08:31 AM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Happy New Year to little turtle, Rohag, Thirty Shades, SprinkL3, Mimi and all on the AS IS bus.
__________________
Hugs from:
little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
little turtle, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #472  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 09:46 AM
Thirty shades's Avatar
Thirty shades Thirty shades is offline
Grand Magnate
 
Member Since: Jul 2018
Location: UK
Posts: 4,817
Happy New Year to all on the bus.
Thank you for being here with kindness.

Confessions of little turtle with love #6
Hugs from:
Fuzzybear, little turtle, Rohag, SprinkL3
Thanks for this!
Fuzzybear, little turtle, SprinkL3
  #473  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 03:50 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6

To all those who are able to reside in kindness and to be true
__________________
Hugs from:
Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #474  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 04:09 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Confessions of little turtle with love #6
__________________
Hugs from:
Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
SprinkL3, Thirty shades
  #475  
Old Jan 01, 2022, 04:25 PM
Fuzzybear's Avatar
Fuzzybear Fuzzybear is offline
Wisest Elder Ever
 
Member Since: Nov 2002
Location: Cave.
Posts: 96,641
Quote:
Originally Posted by Rohag View Post
I've fallen short [understatement] of this particular "must".

Some people are good at confronting others. I'm not. Additionally, my observation is that confrontation rarely results in a change in the confronted's behaviour. I find it easier, more effective (and more isolating) to detach from manipulators.

You are ''too nice'' Rohag

A horrible boyfriend used to list what he called my ''shortcomings''

I wish I had said

''**** you too'' He was a JERK

He deserved a BITE from Ursida
__________________
Hugs from:
Rohag, SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Thanks for this!
SprinkL3, Thirty shades
Closed Thread
Views: 86664

attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 01:46 PM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.




 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.