[will19]

I did the cleaning today, despite being hot and humid. While cleaning I had constantly wiped myself off with a towel and drank a lot of cold water. I'm glad to have been able to do the job.

I haven't slept well because it's been so dang hot! Also there's soreness in my upper arm. Perhaps I might have pulled something in the middle of the night. Because it's hard to toss-and-turn in bed with being so warm and humid.

It's all got me to not feeling so well emotionally.

[nonightowl]

Originally Posted by will19

To Nonightowl ---> Thank you for letting me know about the friendship mixer. It seems like it's a bit of a disappointment that you have to wait, but on the other hand, if you have reservations about going then you'd have some time to think it over. Apparently, you seem to want to go because you may have some good feelings about the other women at the Senior's Center.

About me, I've been to so many social events and ended up disappointed every time. So it makes me not interested in going to social events. I think you are brave to consider this. There's probably a good chance that some other woman may be looking for a good friend, and that could be where you come in.
I hope for the best for you at whatever comes.

If I were going to some kind of social event that sounds pretty good to me, then I would have my expectations very low. It would be good for me to do it that way because, if I get too psyched, then I'd be set up for a nose-dive in disappointments.

I guess there are a lot of times in my life right now in being alone that I don't mind that much. But still it would be nice to have someone. I'd rather be alone than with bad company, but it isn't a good option to have only. I don't like to be a real loner, either. That's the fear I have at relocating somewhere else where I don't know anyone.

Thanks Will, I’ll let you know. I don’t think there will be another one until next year. Actually I hate that place and haven’t made any true friends. Just acquaintances who stopped talking to me. I’m sick of the book club as they don’t share my tastes. And the same people dominate the discussion. Sick of my exercise class too sigh.😔 I thought I had a friend, a man, but he got the wrong idea. And he stopped talking to me when he realized I was never on the same page as him.

Thank you for saying I’m brave because I often feel chicken! 🐓 I don’t mind solitude at times because I can regroup and reflect. But not ALL the time. And it’s getting old. I have a pair of dress shoes I never wore even once. I never fathomed that in decades I wouldn’t be going out at all. I have a few women acquaintances in both groups but no friends. Friendships take effort and most people lack the emotional maturity to invest in it. Hey why don’t you come here? Anyway there’s women there I try to avoid, one other man too. The old geezers are around at that place.

I wish I could find a better place, even a better book club. But it’s walking distance from home so it’s convenient. But not great.

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[nonightowl]

Originally Posted by will19

I did the cleaning today, despite being hot and humid. While cleaning I had constantly wiped myself off with a towel and drank a lot of cold water. I'm glad to have been able to do the job.

I haven't slept well because it's been so dang hot! Also there's soreness in my upper arm. Perhaps I might have pulled something in the middle of the night. Because it's hard to toss-and-turn in bed with being so warm and humid.

It's all got me to not feeling so well emotionally.

Same here. We are BAKING and I don’t have ac in my bedroom. I opened my window and used the window fan, plus my floor fan. Normally it feels like ac if the temps cool down at night. But it hasn’t been cooling off, even at 2am it was still 80 degrees. And I have to drag myself to the store tomorrow. I go early but still…..it heats up fast. I too drink a lot of water and sweat. I have a box wall ac in the living room but it’s just a room ac. And costly to run! Do you have an ac at all?

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[will19]

Quote from Nonightowl --->"Do you have an ac at all?

I have what appears to be a box A/C. I've never used it. I never felt the need to use it because, like you, I feel like it would be costly. And I just hate air conditioning anyways. Whenever it's really hot and humid, if I go into a supermarket, it feels nice and cool inside. But then it feels brutal when I go out.

I feel like I can wether not having an A/C running. I grew up that way.

[T4bbyCat]

Originally Posted by will19

I have what appears to be a box A/C. I've never used it. I never felt the need to use it because, like you, I feel like it would be costly. And I just hate air conditioning anyways. Whenever it's really hot and humid, if I go into a supermarket, it feels nice and cool inside. But then it feels brutal when I go out.

I feel like I can wether not having an A/C running. I grew up that way.

Similar in my case. We were told this summer would be super-hot, but it never quite materialized this year. Ironically enough, I purchased a portable AC unit at Costco because it was on a huge sale -- and haven't even unpacked it yet 😂. Maybe next summer, if global warming continues.

[nonightowl]

Will and Tabby I hear you. I never got a stand alone because it needs to vent and it could be noisy. And I don’t have anyone around anymore who could help me select the right model and install it for me. I use fans and open my window. I wear earplugs but still hear garage noise like cars and people walking by. And I get the glare from the bright security lights.

If I’m really suffering I run it on energy saving mode and no more than 2 hours. Since nobody checks on me I’ll do it if I can’t tolerate it. Years ago I ran it for 4 hours straight for 4 days. When I got my bill I never did it again. It just cools the room, not the whole apartment. My bathroom and bedroom is hot as hell. The wall unit uses a lot of energy to cool one room.

Wow Will I grew up that way too. We are of the same generation. My parents were always penny pinching and they said we couldn’t afford ac in the house nor in our cars. So I have a high tolerance for heat even if I hate it. I think it’s better to have a consistent temperature throughout my apartment than have it hot in the bedroom and cool in the living room. I was going to try sleeping on my sofa and running the ac, but it’s not nearly as comfortable as my bed.

And I’m not too crazy about ac either. When I was in high school I remember a classmate saying he didn’t like ac because it’s an unnatural cool. 45 years later I still remember that. He’s right. It’s hard to get it just right so it doesn’t feel like the North-Pole. Sometimes it’s TOO cold like at the library or the bus. I was at the grocery store this morning and it felt good, just right. My gym is cool too but like you said, it’s a shock to walk outside afterwards. I never made it to the gym Thursday and yesterday I went in the morning. Not my routine but it’s too hot to go in the afternoon.

The manager sent an email telling us to stay hydrated and careful during this extended heatwave. That was weird because that NEVER happened before! And we have had heat waves before but maybe not this extreme in years. Still I’m skeptical they really care. Are they going to pay my electric bill?

Great to have someone to talk to about it. Supposedly one more day, Monday, and it will start cooling.

The ONLY good thing is that the neighbors are quiet. Not even that little girl is riding her scooter and screaming.



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[nonightowl]

Anyone have a ceiling fan? I just remembered that they are supposed to be helpful in drawing heat up or down, depending on the direction. The newer tenants have them but I don’t. I don’t even have a ceiling fixture in the bedroom and my bed would need to be moved if they had to work in here. And I don’t want to be bothered. Both the manager and one of the maintenance guys have been snarky.

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[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by will19

I woke up feeling dreadful for today with work that's supposed to be going on around me. There work was being done today but it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. Some noise but not very loud like last week.

Nothing much to report about for today. Just did some shopping this morning and that's about it. I feel a bit down but not terribly depressed like last week, so that's good.

I’m glad that everything has worked out

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by will19

Another Saturday. Felt alright in the morning because of cleaning. Before cleaning, I didn't feel like doing it. I felt too down and depressed and thought I wouldn't be able to. But I went ahead anyways and glad that I did. I always want a clean place for myself, even though no one else will ever see it.

I'm feeling depressed now this afternoon. The outlook for the future looks dismal. There's going to be new developments nearby with a lot of noise and more crowds, which I'm not crazy about. My social life is terrible. and I'm stuck with all of this.

sometimes i feel like this myself.

[will19]

Originally Posted by nonightowl

Anyone have a ceiling fan? I just remembered that they are supposed to be helpful in drawing heat up or down, depending on the direction. The newer tenants have them but I don’t. I don’t even have a ceiling fixture in the bedroom and my bed would need to be moved if they had to work in here. And I don’t want to be bothered. Both the manager and one of the maintenance guys have been snarky.

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I have a ceiling fan in the living room part only. It helps a little bit. But today, being so so hot, it felt like it doesn't make much of a dent. I took a nap around 1 PM and I had the ceiling fan going and portable fan next to me. It helped but it felt like it was pushing hot air around.

We'll get through this! After all, it's happened for us before. Pretty soon it will only be a fleeting memory.